How To Have Hard, High-Growth Conversations

If you want your team to grow fast and strong,
master this 👇

It’s not a tactic.
It’s not a tool.
It’s a conversation—the one you’ve been avoiding.

I call them High Growth Conversations—
because they create the alignment, clarity,
and accountability your team needs to grow quickly without breaking down.

You’ll know one by these four signs:

➡️ Differing opinions
➡️ High stakes
➡️ Strong emotions
➡️ Progress matters

Most leaders avoid them.
The best ones don’t.

So what does a great “HGC” look like?

It’s not about:
❌ Winning the argument
❌ Being right
❌ Avoiding discomfort

Done well, these conversations:
✅ Strengthen relationships
✅ Increase understanding
✅ Drive meaningful behavior change

If there’s an important conversation you need to have,
here’s how to prepare:

1️⃣ Clarify what “success” looks like.

→ What do I want?
→ What don’t I want?
→ What outcome works for both of us?

2️⃣ Manage your mindset.

→ Watch out for common “mind trash”
“It’s their fault”
“I’m the one being hurt”
“Why bother, nothing will change.”

→ Reinforce beliefs that lead to great outcomes:
“I can be honest and kind.”
“I care too much to stay silent.”

3️⃣ Go in with a plan. (Don’t wing it!)

→ Start with facts
→ Share the story you’re telling yourself
→ Ask, listen, and align

Remember, trust is the foundation:

Credibility +
Reliability +
Vulnerability –
Ego

The more you’ve built, the better these conversations go.

If there’s a conversation you’ve been avoiding—
now’s the time to have it.