People can only paint you with the colors they have. Someone sees you as difficult. Someone else thinks you’re brave. One person calls you quiet. Another feels safe around you because you listen. You can walk into the same room, say the same words, behave exactly the same way, and leave behind completely different versionsContinue reading “The Colors They Have”
Author Archives: Kenrick Vaz
You Don’t Have To Stay
You can love something and still admit that it is hurting you. That can be hard to accept. We tend to believe love should make us stay. If we care deeply about a person, a job, a friendship, a dream, or even a version of our life, walking away can feel like betrayal. So weContinue reading “You Don’t Have To Stay”
Happiness – Hidden in Plain Sight
We spend a surprising amount of our lives looking at what is missing. The bigger house. The better job. The next promotion. The holiday we have been saving for. The car we want to upgrade to. The number we would like to see in our bank account. There is always something just beyond where weContinue reading “Happiness – Hidden in Plain Sight”
Tell people they matter.
Say it clearly enough that they never have to study your behaviour for clues. We often assume people know how we feel about them. Of course my parents know I love them. My partner knows how much I appreciate them. My friends know I value them. The people I work with know I respect whatContinue reading “Tell people they matter.”
Beyond the Pond
Some conversations are difficult because the other person disagrees with you. Others are difficult because the two of you are looking at the world from completely different distances. You are talking about the ocean. They have spent their whole life in a pond. Tell a frog about waves taller than a house, and it hasContinue reading “Beyond the Pond”
When They Don’t Choose You
There is a particular kind of hurt that comes from someone choosing themselves when you were quietly hoping they would choose you. They may not have meant to hurt you. There may have been no argument, betrayal, or dramatic goodbye. They simply made a decision that worked better for them. And you were the costContinue reading “When They Don’t Choose You”
What Matters
There are days when life feels like one long list. Reply to that message. Finish the work. Pay the bill. Put the dishes away. Pick up groceries. Make the appointment. Figure out dinner. Remember the thing you promised you wouldn’t forget. Then tomorrow arrives with another list. Somewhere in the middle of all that, youContinue reading “What Matters”
Still Making Ripples
Some people are in your life for years and slowly become part of its architecture. You know where they’ll sit at the dinner table. You know how they take their coffee. Their names appear in hundreds of photos, messages and stories. Then there are people who barely stay long enough to leave a footprint. AContinue reading “Still Making Ripples”
The Ones Who Light Up
There’s a certain kind of happiness you can see before anyone says a word. You walk into a room and someone’s face changes. Their eyes light up. A smile arrives without effort. They move toward you because they’re glad you’re there. That feeling is worth paying attention to. We spend a surprising amount of lifeContinue reading “The Ones Who Light Up”
Be the Safe Harbor
There’s a line I came across recently that stayed with me: “If you can’t be a safe harbor for someone, at least don’t be the storm that makes their day harder. Be the reason someone remembers that the world can still be gentle.” It sounds simple. Living it takes a little more work. We rarelyContinue reading “Be the Safe Harbor”
