We all have them.
Questions we sidestep.
Topics we tiptoe around.
Areas we’d rather leave unexplored because the answers might be uncomfortable, uncertain, or inconvenient.
But growth never lives in the easy or the obvious.
It waits quietly behind the questions we’re afraid to ask.
• What am I pretending not to know?
• Why am I really stuck?
• Is this path still serving me—or just familiar?
• What would I do if I wasn’t afraid?
We avoid these questions not because we don’t know they matter, but because deep down, we already suspect what the answer might be. And once you see a truth, you can’t unsee it. You’re compelled to change—or consciously choose not to.
The Power of Honest Inquiry
Leaders, creators, and change-makers don’t just solve problems.
They ask better questions. And they sit with the discomfort long enough to let clarity emerge.
In our teams, our relationships, and our personal growth, the real breakthroughs happen when we stop avoiding the tough questions—and start engaging with them.
If you’re feeling stuck…
These 8 questions may change your life:
Am I solving the right problem, or just the first one I noticed?
What constraints am I treating as fixed that might be flexible?
What would I do if I wasn’t afraid of being wrong or judged?
What if I tried the opposite of what I’ve been trying?
How would someone in a completely different field solve this?
Am I trying to untie something I could just cut through?
If this were a puzzle or game, how would I approach it differently?
If this were someone else’s problem, what advice would I give them?
They may be uncomfortable or challenging, but your next breakthrough is found in the answer to one of those questions.
So today, don’t just reflect.
Challenge.
Don’t just plan.
Probe.
And remember:
The door you don’t want to open may be the one that leads to everything you’re looking for.
Kenrick Vaz 