One of the things I love and marvel at is our natural ability to make choices. In a split second we make choices about how we’re going to live, where we want to go, the people we want to be with, what we want to eat, how we want to look. Millions of choices that are both conscious and unconscious. It’s an incredible and powerful gift we have.
Yes, it sounds easy but it can be the hardest thing in the world to do… to make a choice and then live with it because the choices you make create your life; make you who you are. They are your present. They are your future. They are your destiny.
Choice is creation. To choose is to create. Through my choices I create my reality. At every moment in my life I have a choice. Moments add up to a lifetime; choices add up to a life. What kind of life do I want for myself? What choices will create this kind of life?
Tal Ben-Shahar
Life is full of choices and every choice has its consequences. It either makes you a stronger, better person or it can ruin you; make you feel you have to fight for yourself because the world is a bad place and you can’t trust anyone.
No matter how difficult the choice or decision you are making you can ask some simple questions for clarity: What do I really want? What will give me peace and calm me down? How can I turn this around, reframe it so I find the best answer?
The more you ask questions the more you open yourself up to a peaceful state of mind. Positive energy is in the desire to know and when you feel yourself relax — body and mind — you know you’re on the right track.
Life is both easy and hard. Sometimes it knocks you down regularly but even then you have the power to choose how you want to experience life. You don’t have to be helpless. You can choose to fight for change, to improve and grow, choose to look on the bright side and find something you’re grateful for, proud of, something that makes you happy and strong even at your lowest.
Maybe you want to eat better, to stop gossiping or to give up an addiction. It can be a hell of a challenge to choose a piece of fruit over a bag of chips, to find something you respect in someone you dislike, to stop smoking or drinking.
1. See what the choice is really about?
2. What are the benefits and the disadvantages of making this choice?
3. What do you really want and why?
4. Take your first small step to start your change. It’s worth it because each choice you make brings you closer to *making choice a way of life*. Living the choice life you most want.
Change is a choice. Change is also a process and life is a process we’re all living in. Let’s enjoy it.
Autobiography in Five Chapters by Portia Nelson is a simple story that says: Either life is an accident and we’re all victims or you can make other choices that will enable you to live the life you desire most. You always have a choice. Be aware. Be active. Get out of resignation and confusion. See what’s actually going on and make the best choice you can and change.
Autobiography in Five Chapters
Chapter 1
I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost…I am helpless.
It is not my fault.
It takes forever to find my way out.Chapter 2
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I am in this same place.
It is still not my fault.
It takes a long time to get out.Chapter 3
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it there.
I still fall in…it’s a habit now.
My eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.Chapter 4
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.Chapter 5
I walk down another street.
Kenrick Vaz 