We often measure our impact by how well we connect people, solve conflicts, or build relationships. But what if our role isn’t always about being the bridge? What if, instead, we’re meant to be the lighthouse?
Jefferson Fisher’s quote, “If you can’t be a bridge, be a lighthouse,” is a powerful reminder that there are different ways to serve and guide others. Some of us thrive in the role of a bridge—bringing people together, facilitating understanding, and closing gaps between perspectives. But for others, our greatest strength lies in being a lighthouse—standing firm, offering clarity, and shining a light so others can navigate their own path.
The Bridge: A Pathway for Connection
Bridges are essential in life. They connect people, resolve differences, and create opportunities for progress. Being a bridge means stepping into the role of a mediator, a facilitator, or an advocate—someone who helps others cross difficult divides, whether in relationships, workplaces, or communities.
Bridges require flexibility, patience, and a willingness to hold space for differing views. They are built on trust and strengthened by resilience. If you naturally bring people together and help them find common ground, your role as a bridge is invaluable.
The Lighthouse: A Beacon of Steadfast Guidance
Not everyone is meant to be a bridge, and that’s perfectly okay. Some of us are lighthouses. Instead of directly connecting people, lighthouses provide guidance from a distance. They don’t move to meet others where they are; they stand firm, offering light, clarity, and hope for those navigating rough waters.
Being a lighthouse means embodying consistency, leading by example, and illuminating a path through your wisdom, integrity, and purpose. It’s about inspiring others not by forcing a connection, but by showing them the way forward through your own clarity and conviction.
Which Role Are You Meant to Play?
The key is understanding which role aligns with your strengths. If you are a bridge, lean into your ability to build understanding and foster collaboration. If you are a lighthouse, embrace the power of standing firm and being a source of guidance.
Both roles are essential. Without bridges, we would remain disconnected. Without lighthouses, we would be lost in the storm. Recognizing and embracing your role—whether you connect or illuminate—is a powerful act of service to those around you.
So ask yourself: Are you a bridge, bringing people together? Or are you a lighthouse, shining your light so others can find their way? Whichever path you take, know that your presence makes a difference.
Kenrick Vaz 