The Secret to Success – 3 Bones

This quote is often attributed to songwriter Reba McEntire, but was infact first said by Dr. Kavanagh during his talk on ‘Moral Anatomy’ – as cited in the New Rochelle Pioneer way back in 1908. More recently, the New Zealand All Blacks mental resilience coach Gilbert Enoka has often referenced the statement as part of his no-nonsense approach to coaching rugby world champions. “In the end, you need only three bones to be successful: a wish bone, a back bone, and a funny bone.”

  • Wishbone – emphasises the importance of having great dreams, a goal, a focus and something to aspire towards. This bone provides us with personal motivation and keeps us facing forwards.
  • Backbone – underlines the importance of mental toughness, being resilient and seeing things through. Having the courage to stand our ground, to stretch ourselves and attain the goal. This bone keeps us on our feet, even in the most difficult times.
  • Funny bone – reminds us that we all need a sense of humour, the ability to laugh at ourselves – to not take life too seriously or be too self-absorbed. This bone reminds us that it is okay to make mistakes and be vulnerable on occasions. This final bone helps us to stay optimistic and enjoy where we are and what we are doing.

The suggestion is that all three bones need to be present for a successful life.  Having a purpose and a sense of humour is no good without the mental attitude required to achieve your goal. Having the goal and the right mental attitude may make you fiercely ambitious, but without some sense of humility, people are unlikely to support your cause. Having the ability to laugh at yourself combined with a resilient nature may well make you extremely robust as an individual, but without any clear plan for yourself or set of intentions, it is unlikely that you will ever realise your true potential.

Any other bones you think are missing?

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