Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s thoughts about you, including your own. It’s just a fact of life. It’s like 11×11 is 121. No matter how you got to an answer, 121 is always going to be correct. It’s the same way about being valuable. You were born valuable, and you will always remain that way. No matter who you are, what you do, who wants you, etc.
Our inability to believe in how valuable we are takes a negative toll on us. It completely limits us. And it shouldn’t be that way. Your place here on earth and what you can do to make a valuable and positive impact is essential and possible; you just have to believe it!
Just because someone sees something differently does not mean you need to adjust the way you perceive yourself. Who knows why that judgment might be different. It could be because you have different points of reference, varying experiences, or incongruent expectations. In fact, no two people see things the same, so there’s always going to be a conflict. But speaking to the problem at hand here, this new found information should not make you less confident in the value you offer.
Do you know why? Because we approach life from our own lens, with our own points of reference, our own experiences, built out of our own expectations. It’s not practical to think that someone else knows how much value you add through your life because they didn’t live it! But you did, and that’s worth everything.
Besides, What if the opposite was true? What if someone said that you were worth more than you believed to be true? You’d probably resort to your own interpretation, because they don’t see the full picture. Well, that’s true on the negative feedback side, and it shouldn’t be any different.
At the end of the day, your value lies within!