No one on this planet is spared from getting affected by the actions of others. People impact us, sometimes in a good way and sometimes in a bad way. We get hurt by the words and behaviour of others. Some of us may pretend that no one can get under their skin. But at some level we get affected! We all have had experiences where it’s really easy to feel resentment and anger towards someone. In fact, it’s hard not to.
The bitterness inside can easily consume us, swallow us whole, and take over our life. Sometimes for a very long time.
But the key thing about bitterness is that it can’t change the past, but it absolutely changes the future for us. Instead of thoroughly enjoying the present moment, we choose to allow our bitterness to take over and ruin our peace of mind.
Yet, it’s so hard not to be bitter when the world has been unkind to us, and honestly, we feel like we deserve to be bitter.
Maybe you do deserve it. I know some really awful things happen to people.
But I also know that when we choose bitterness, we are giving power over to the person or thing that hurt us.
Each time we choose bitterness we are saying, “here’s my joy”.
We have a choice to make- be bitter, or be better.
Being better, meaning, choosing a life of freedom for yourself.
Getting to take the weight of the past off of you so you can live a lighter life.
One where you are present. But the choice needs to be made.
Usually the choice needs to be made daily.
In fact, it might need to be made many, many times a day.
Am I going to let whoever hurt me steal more from me?
Or am I going to release it, knowing God will take care of it Himself, and move forward from this pain?
I know it’s a process. I know it can take awhile to get to a place where you really feel free from the past.
But I pray that you’ll at least start the process.
Bitter or better- you choose.
Choose with your future joy and peace in mind.
And when bitterness sneaks up again, which it probably will, make the choice again.
Because life without the weight of bitterness is better.