Words have power. They can destroy and create. Sometimes a single word can change everything. Do you remember the words and kind acts that encouraged you when you were young? Perhaps a teacher, a coach, or a relative changed the trajectory of your life, all with the way they spoke to you. Hopefully, he or she spoke positive words of love and acceptance that encouraged you. I still fondly remember the encouraging words from my teachers in school 🙂
A 21st century Jewish Rabbi shared this striking statement about the power of words: “Words are singularly the most powerful force available to humanity. We can choose to use this force constructively with words of encouragement, or destructively use words of despair. Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate and to humble.”
Our thoughts also impact what we manifest in our lives. But it can be argued that the real power lies in our words. It is our words that provide a bold affirmation of our innermost thoughts. They are a confirmation to the world of how we see others, our lives and ourselves. It is this powerful affirmation that our words provide which enables our thoughts to manifest into a reality.
The words you speak with your spouse is so powerful that it can literally make or break your relationship. Your words literally decide the happiness quotient of your marriage.
Here are a few examples to portray the different moods of words you speak!
1. Depressive words make your spouse gloomy.
- Are you a person lacking in confidence?
- Do you feel that you are destined to fail?
- Do you always utter negative words of depression?
Your attitude makes your spouse feel downcast and gloomy. When there is depressing atmosphere at home, there is no real happiness worth the name in your relationship. Your miserable and negative comments makes your spouse terribly bored to interact with you.
2. Angry words make your relationship crash to failure.
You are always stressed and tensed by your work related problems. You are constantly pressurized by family issues. You do not share your feelings with your spouse. Instead, you thrust your frustration and disappointment on him/her.
Angry words always hurt your relationship. It makes both drift far away from each other. Both feel unloved and uncared by the persistent use of angry words.
3. Humorous words can enliven your marriage
- Do you joke with your spouse?
- Do you make your spouse laugh by your humorous words?
Then your marriage is indeed lively and total fun.
Humor is the best way to relieve the tension and stress of your day-to-day interaction. It makes your relationship thrive with fulfillment. You enjoy your time together. When you are amusing and witty, your spouse wants to keep on communicating with you.
Your home echoes with laughter and fun. When you make light weather of family problems, your spouse loves you for this.
4. Caring words binds your relationship
- Is your spouse feeling downcast and pulled down?
- Do you overlook it as none of your business?
Your indifferent behavior makes your spouse feel that you do not care enough for him/her.
‘Is something wrong?
‘Don’t worry, everything will be fine.’
‘I am there for you.’
These words depict how much you care for your spouse.
5. Encouraging words build confidence.
Everyone wants success. Your spouse is no different. But success never comes easily. He/she feels let down when he/she faces persistent failures.
He/she feels terribly upset that you do not support him/her. Never shatter the morale of your spouse by browbeating or nagging him/her with discouraging words.
When you utter encouraging words, your spouse literally feels energized about his\her ability to be successful. ‘You will do it’, I know you will succeed’, such encouraging words make your spouse feel worthwhile and valuable.
6. Words of love make your relationship strong
Your spouse never outgrows the need to be loved by you. He/she literally craves for visible show of love from you. Your spouse feels uncared when you live through your married life with routine and mundane interaction.
Your spouse adores it when you have many loving words to say to him/her.
‘I love you’.
‘I do not know what I would do without you’.
‘You are the best thing that has happened in my life’.
Such beautiful words make your spouse melt in happiness.
So choose your words bravely, consciously and lovingly. Always speak from a place of love; for yourself, for your life, for your spouse and for others. Your words equal your world, so use them wisely.
Kenrick Vaz 