One of the most important relationships in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. Many of us invest so much time and energy in our relationships with others while completely disregarding our own relationship with ourselves, even though it’s actually the most important one.
At some point you will realize how much you keep seeking acceptance and validation from others when you should’ve been seeking your own acceptance and validation all along, because it all starts with you.
Often people actually spend most of their time trying to be very supportive towards their friends’ dreams and goals, but when it comes to their own dreams and goals, they just don’t show half of this support for themselves.
Many of us aspire to always be nice, kind, and helpful towards others, but I don’t know why we forget to be that way towards ourselves as well. We even tend to make excuses to forgive others for so many things while being so hard on ourselves and not showing ourselves the same forgiveness we practice on others.
We tend to encourage our loved ones to pursue their dreams no matter what and give them pep talks and make sure that we are right beside them all the way, but what about ourselves? We deserve pep talks from ourselves. We deserve to believe in ourselves as much as we keep on believing in everyone else around us.
And it hits you how sometimes we are just too consumed with others that we neglect ourselves. We are so keen to be there for everyone else that we forget to be there for ourselves.
Love yourself first. If you don’t believe that you are worthy, neither will anybody else.
Bobby J. Mattingly
You deserve the love of your own that you keep trying to give everyone else. You deserve to be loved by you. That deep care, compassion, and concern that you constantly give to others is what you deserve to be receiving from you. You deserve to be loved by you with the same passion, more passion even, than that which you have in your love of any other person.
By saying that you deserve to give yourself the love that you keep trying to give everyone else, I am not saying to stop caring for others. But you will never ever, no matter how much you love others, be able to receive more love from them than you have for yourself because it is not possible.
Here is a lovely poem by Nikita Gill
You are not small.
You are not unworthy.
You are not insignificant.
The universe wove you from a constellation,
just so atom, every fibre in you comes from
a different star.
Together, you are bound by stardust , altogether
spectacularly created by the energy of the
universe itself.
And that, my darling,
is the poetry of physics,
the poetry of YOU.
Kenrick Vaz 