We all keep taking risks every day, some big, some small. Most, if not all of us only hesitate when you feel something important is at stake. Whether you love adventure or you always focus on what could go wrong, guidelines can help you objectively assess the value of taking risks.
One question I keep asking myself when in a dilemma is “one year from now will I regret not doing this?” Some risks aren’t worth the consequences. And If you are considering a decision that will change your life, you need to flesh out a vision of the job, relationship, or lifestyle you want to create and a plan for getting there before you leap.
Some risks are based on how much pleasure you will gain, such as choosing an exotic vacation, buying a new car, or getting a new phone. You can look at what value you will get from taking the risk and then weigh that against the value of not doing it. There’s no guarantee you will feel happier but you will be clearer about what you might gain.
There’s no way to predict how you will feel in the future.Stumbling on Happiness, Dan Gilbert
Other risks are based on relieving present discomfort. Although you feel frustrated, resentful, or bored, you shouldn’t take a risk just because you don’t like what you have now. You need to be clear on what you want instead so you know the risk will move you forward.
Here are some pointers that help to determine if a risk is worth taking
- Use a sounding board. Your brain wants to keep you within your personal safety zone, which differs for each situation depending on past experiences and your taste for challenge. It is better to talk through options with someone who will not be affected by your choice, someone who will be objective. Also, don’t choose someone who likes to tell others what they should do. As you explain the pros and cons of risking, notice how you feel. How badly do you want what the risk will give you? Do your reasons make you feel proud or satisfied? Your emotions may indicate how important taking the risk is to you.
You could also try the Coin Trick. Assign your options to heads or tails. Flip the coin. The moment you see the result, are you disappointed or relieved? The trick might help you uncover what you really want to do.
- Catch your “shoulds.” It’s hard to make a decision when you are attached to other people’s opinions. What do you think they will say if you take the risk? Try writing these statements down to identify your fears of their judgments and your guilt about disappointing others. Recognition of your should-based actions can also free you from black-and-white, stay or go, decisions. You might find other options available to you when you clearly understand what you want for yourself in the future.
- Know your why. Be mindful of being driven by needs for recognition or acceptance. When you assess the value of your risk, what type of satisfaction do you gain? What outcome will you be most proud of over time? What would you do if you had no people to take care of or please? Twenty years from now, what would you love to tell people about the risk you took? What story do you want to be living?
For life-changing risks, consider the strengths you love to exercise. Can you envision using these strengths in a deeply satisfying way?
When I dare to be powerful, to use my strengths in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid.Audre Lorde, Activist
- Be honest about what could go wrong. Don’t ignore hazards. When you look at possible problems, how would you handle them? Fear can blind you to your options once you take a risk. Consider bad outcomes, determine the likelihood they will happen, and what you would do next.
If you decide the risk is worth taking, commit to taking a few steps, even if the steps are small. You might read a book, have a conversation with someone about the direction you want to take or sign up for a class on starting a business. Do something to keep moving. Then, if things don’t go as you hoped for, allow for self-correction. Learn along the way.
No matter what you decide, you will encounter difficulties. You will question your choices. You may even find your choice was just a step to the next as you create many chapters in your life.
Which risks will you regret not making a year from now? Decide what risks are worth taking and take the first step today.