Some people go on their entire lives thinking that being different is something bad. They think that by not being themselves and by desperately trying to fit into society’s norms, they are doing themselves and the world a favor.
But they are not.
As long as you feel content with yourself and you are open to the idea of improving and growing, it really doesn’t matter whether you fit somewhere or not. Stop trying to prove to others and yourself that you are less than what you are.
If you want to explore your potential and see just how capable you are, you have to stop limiting yourself.
You have to allow yourself to become who you want to be.
We are all born to stand out, so where did we go wrong?
Why is it so much easier for the world to keep imposing boundaries after boundaries, instead of accepting people for who they are with their flaws and their will to explore their potential?
When did different become bad?
I believe that being different should not be feared, but accepted.
After all, there would be no progress in the world without individuals who allow themselves to explore their endless potential. And certainly, there would be no progress without people who are not afraid to use their imagination.
Eventually, we all want to find out happiness as the ultimate purpose in life, and we should not stop until we do. Even if it means not fitting into the picture-perfect.
My overall opinion is that everyone needs to be themselves, as long as they are not hurting other people with their ways.
You are who you are.
You are different them me, and you are much different than any other person that you know or the people you are going to meet in your lifetime.
You might have some similar traits with some people. Your taste of music, the world views, some opinions. But we are a super-complex mixture of emotions, experiences, and opinions. I don’t believe that you will ever meet two people who are exactly the same.
We all experience the world differently. We feel the same emotions but differently. Some people are more passionate, others are observant, and some are quite the talkers. You can be neither of these people or one that has all of these traits and more.
It really doesn’t matter.
What does matter, however, is that you recognize the type of person you are, and allow yourself to grow in that direction.
If you aspire to become something more, something better, you can and you should.
There should be no limitations, and nothing stopping you from achieving your full potential.
So to give you your answer. Is it good to fit the norms or not?
I believe that some people are meant to fit the norms, not because they must, but because these norms are well aligned with their personalities.
There isn’t a straight answer that says whether fitting the norms is good or bad. It’s what you make of it. But remember, pursue your goals, dreams, aspiration, as long as they are not hurtful to anyone else. Not following the norms does not mean that you can do anything you want without any repercussions whatsoever.
It means that you should find what makes you happy and fulfilled, but be respectful to the people around you. It doesn’t matter whether you fit into the norms or you don’t, as long as you are not limiting yourself in any way.
Remind yourself constantly that limitations are your own creation.
You set the limits of who you are, and you can push these boundaries for as much as you want. Society does not do that, someone else won’t do that. Only you can do that.
But before you are able to push your boundaries, you need to realize your potential, wake up your imagination, and lose the fear.
Don’t let fear take over your dreams and aspirations. You are still that aspiring child that had a vision.
You are destined to become the person you decide to be.
So who is that person, and what’s your decision?
You are not doing anyone a favor by not being who you truly are.
You are your own person, and you need to own it.
Stop hiding behind a mask just because someone else thinks that you should.
Stop hiding behind the truth, just because someone else got to dictate the norms.
We are all different, and some of us are just not made to fit the norms.
But all of us are born to stand out.