It is a tough situation when your heart says go for it and your mind says “No” it is wrong. You do accept the things happening in your life and you want to create a new life which is better than what you are living today.
Sometimes your heart tells you to help someone find their way, but your mind tells you that someone needs to find their path on their own to grow.
Sometimes your heart tells you to love someone who is not on the same page as you, but your mind tells you your differences will end up pulling you both a part.
Sometimes your heart tells you to endure the cheating and abuse with the hope of change, but your mind says you know you deserve better.
Your heart and mind sometimes disagree; your fate will depend on whose advice you follow.
Head vs. Heart: Which is Smarter?
Our head
Is where the analysis, logic, thoughts.
It’s where we think through things, review those “pros and cons” lists.
It’s also where fear, It comes up with all the reasons to stay in our safe comfort zone.
When those fears present themselves, it’s time for your True Self to face them and determine how real they are. Until we do that, our fears will control us and greatly limit us.
Our heart
Is where our intuition lies. It’s the source of that little voice that guides us, if we let it. Our heart is where our True Self resides, our Higher Self – the one that truly knows what is best for us.
Without practice, it’s harder to hear our heart; the chattering mind speaks so loudly, sending us in different directions without an overall purpose and makes it hard to hear the heart.
When we’re busy being busy, the mind rules.
When we can get quiet, we can finally hear the music in our heart.
The Process of Choice
We make hundreds of choices every day, whether we realize it or not.
Many of these choices are made subconsciously – we don’t even realize we’re doing it.
Then there are bigger choices like whether to get married or divorced, leave or stay at our jobs, have kids, make a big move and pursue our passions.
And other are the ones where we take time to consider all of our options,
Those are the choices where we let our mind take over many times.
Pausing for Values
Do you know what your highest values are? Most people don’t ever stop to consider this.
What are the three to five most important things to you in life?
Sometimes going with the flow is the easier choice but, if it doesn’t support these values, I need to make a harder choice.
What is the choice you’re about to make? Have you uncovered all the available options?
Consider your highest values.
Consider how each option supports your highest values.
Don’t be wishy-washy about it. If you’ve taken the above steps seriously, the choice should make itself evident. Choose that and move forward.
No second guessing. No regrets. Start taking action on your choice.
If, after you start taking action on the choice you made, you do not like the results, simply make a different choice.
Slow down enough each day to hear your inner voice. Listen to it. Follow it. It may lead you to unexpected places but those places will always be the best for you.
The heart and mind always quarrel with each other like your everyday couple. Without their quarrels, life becomes nothing but a vast empty space.
Kenrick Vaz 