We face many challenges in our personal life as well as in our career. In fact, career is one aspect of life which constantly makes us uncertain and at times leads us to the negative loop. From the quest of choosing the right career to the competitive peers, from ever nudging relatives to an un-supportive family and what not! There is something that you can do about all your woes. That is, to train your brain to see good in everything.
Remember that ridiculously cheery, borderline creepy scene from Mary Poppins where the children (rightfully so) complain about having to clean up their room?
I was never a huge fan of the film — but I could always relate to the kids in that scene.
Why?
Cleaning sucks.
Doing things that you don’t like sucks.
But looking back, I have to admit… maybe Mary Poppins was on to something.
Right before breaking into song, she declares:
“In every job that must be done, there’s an element of fun. You find the fun, and SNAP, the job’s a game.”
We assume that by its very nature, a job isn’t meant to be fun. That’s why it’s called a JOB.
But what if a simple formula could snap you out of boredom, lethargy and negativity — and make you excited, happy and motivated?
The key? You have to train your mind to see the good in every situation. Even situations that initially seem negative.
Here are three ways to start training your mind to see the good in every situation:
#1: Realize that success takes time — and it’s totally OK to be bored in the process
Something weird happens in our brains when we’re bored with our goals.
First, we experience the irritating feeling of listlessness — which is uncomfortable in and of itself.
But that feeling of listlessness is usually followed by aggravation.
We’re bored with our lives. Then we get mad at ourselves for getting bored. Then we get we try to think of a way to get un-bored, and the only thing we can think of doing are the things that bored us in the first place.
Try this mental reframe: From now on, I want you to begin viewing boredom not as a sign of stagnation, but as a sign of consistent, steady progress.
As long as you’re doing the little things that you need to do every single day in order to succeed, then success is inevitable. It’s ok to be bored from Point A to Point B.
Just don’t stop.
#2: Create a system to start tracking your progress
Sometimes, the biggest reason why we fail to see the good in everyday situations is because we lose perspective on how far we’ve come. You’re missing the forest for the trees.
Remember coming back from summer vacation and seeing the people who’d grown six inches? You didn’t see them for months — so their growth was quite apparent. But to them, the growth probably didn’t feel noticeable.
Point being, you have to start taking notice of the little, day-to-day improvements that you make. Over time, this will allow you to see how far you’ve come, and it will give you a reference point for where you want to go.
#3: Remember that you can still make it — even when others discourage you
It’s hard to pursue your dreams when your family, friends and coworkers don’t believe in you. It feels good to have people that you care about support your vision.
But whenever someone tells you that you can’t do something, that a goal is “impossible” or downright laughs in your face, don’t get frustrated.
Instead, train your mind to see their disbelief as a challenge.
Instead of saying, “They’re probably right. I can’t do it” — train yourself to think, “Okay. Now, I’ll SHOW you what I can do.”
Every time someone disparages you in an opportunity to show them how strong your vision is.
Turn their negative energy into your rocket fuel and blast off.
By positive thinking I don’t mean that you shut your eyes towards reality and practicality but that you approach unpleasant situations in a more positive manner. You start searching the best in the worst. Don’t think that these things will have a magical effect overnight but yes you will certainly turn into an optimist with time and will come one step closer to happiness.
Kenrick Vaz 