We’ve all seen kids going about their day with a large majority spent in a joyful state. You would have to try really hard to make a child unhappy. But as we grow up, that trend reverses. We spend most of our days unhappy and we are constantly looking for something or someone externally to make us happy.
We are the most comfortable generation in the history of humanity and yet we are not it’s happiest one! In fact, all the comforts and advancement in our history was because of some level of unhappiness faced by our ancestors.
Yet, here we are, in the middle of all the comfort constantly living in fear and anxiety-more worried about what could have been or might be, rather than enjoying what is.
There is nobody in this world that has not been happy or doesn’t know how that feels. Somewhere along the way, we just decided to give in to the rigors of life and die a slow death rather than live an exuberant life.
Our happiness is our responsibility, just like a million other things that we are responsible for, which is probably why so many of us are not trying! We are responsible for our careers, for our health, for our sleep, for our relationships and on top of all that, now we have to figure out what makes us happy!
If you are relying on anyone or anything else for your happiness, stop that right now. If you feel like you’re not quite doing what you want to be doing and you’re not quite the person you want to be, let reading this be the sign that you have a change to make.
There are those who take control of their life and there are those who are life’s victims. Which do you want to be? The type who confidently assesses their own worth or the type that complains about feeling undervalued? No one can ‘make’ you feel anything. Happy or sad. Every emotion you feel you can be in charge of. Giving away control of your feelings? Sort it out.
Recognize that you are in control of your happiness.
The first step is to recognize that you are the one in control of your happiness. Your entire happiness lies within you. The more you learn to tap into it internally rather than depending on others to bring that out, the easier it will be for you to be happy.
Your mantra today
I have at all times, within me, all the happiness that I need and I am solely responsible for my happiness.
Once you recognise that you are in control of your happiness, here are a few other things that have helped me:
- Do what makes you happy
- Stop worrying about what others think
- Stop complaining
- Stop comparing
Happiness might be subjective but it sure isn’t rocket science. We make things complex when they don’t need to be. The options I have mentioned above are not complex. They are the simplest of things that you can do on a daily basis to increase your joy quotient.
Only you have the power and inclination to control your own happiness. No external factors should penetrate your inner core. No one can make you feel anything you don’t want to feel, it’s all a choice. You’ve got this!
Here’s my all time favourite “Happy” song to get you going!
Kenrick Vaz 