You’re Not Here to Be Liked. You’re Here to Be Real.

There’s a quiet pressure most of us carry, often without realizing it. The pressure to soften our opinions. To dilute our personality. To round off our edges so we’re easier to accept, easier to like, easier to keep around. It shows up in meetings when you don’t say what you really think. In friendships whereContinue reading “You’re Not Here to Be Liked. You’re Here to Be Real.”

Stand for Something (and You’ll Never Blend In Again)

There’s a lot of pressure these days to “stand out.” Be louder. Be faster. Be more visible. Post more. Network more. Learn more. Achieve more. Prove more. And honestly… it can get exhausting. Because when standing out becomes the goal, you start chasing everything that looks impressive from the outside—without always knowing whether it actuallyContinue reading “Stand for Something (and You’ll Never Blend In Again)”

Life Isn’t Either/Or. It’s BOTH!

There’s a quiet relief that comes when you finally stop trying to categorize life into neat little boxes. Good or bad. Happy or sad. Strong or struggling. We spend so much time asking ourselves which one it is, as if life owes us a single, clean answer. But it rarely does. Most days don’t arriveContinue reading “Life Isn’t Either/Or. It’s BOTH!”

The Weight You Were Never Meant to Carry

There’s a quiet shift that happens when you finally understand this: your life gets lighter the moment you stop trying to manage other people’s thoughts, reactions, and emotions. Most of us don’t even realize how much weight we’re carrying. We replay conversations in our heads, tweak our words to land a certain way, soften ourContinue reading “The Weight You Were Never Meant to Carry”

The Weight You Were Never Meant to Carry

Somewhere along the way, many of us quietly take on a role we were never officially given. Fixer. Stabilizer. The one who makes things better. If someone is struggling, you feel it’s your responsibility to step in. If something is broken, you instinctively reach for the tools. And if people around you are hurting, youContinue reading “The Weight You Were Never Meant to Carry”

The Exit Theory

There’s a strange pressure we put on ourselves to stay—stay in conversations that leave us uneasy, stay in situations where we feel small, stay in rhythms that drain us even when we know better. Maybe it’s habit. Maybe it’s guilt. Maybe it’s that quiet fear that someone will ask, “Why are you leaving?” and weContinue reading “The Exit Theory”

The Only Thing Worth Keeping

Life has a strange way of humbling us. You arrive with nothing, a blank slate wrapped in warmth and wonder. Then the race begins — school, work, money, recognition, security, success. We run faster, climb higher, collect more. And yet, somewhere in the noise of chasing everything, we forget that we’ll still leave with nothing.Continue reading “The Only Thing Worth Keeping”

Make yourself your TOP priority

I believe we should all be a bit more selfish. We should all prioritize our own needs. We should take care of ourselves before taking care of other people. In his book “12 Rules for Life”, Jordan Peterson has a full chapter about how most of us are actually better at taking care of other peopleContinue reading “Make yourself your TOP priority”