Did you know that the first Thursday of May is apparently “World Password Day”? I didn’t! And this year to celebrate this day Apple, Google, and Microsoft are launching a “joint effort” to kill the password. The major OS vendors want to “expand support for a common passwordless sign-in standard created by the FIDO Alliance and the World Wide Web Consortium.”
The new capability will allow websites and apps to offer consistent, secure, and easy passwordless sign-ins to consumers across devices and platforms.
Password-only authentication is one of the biggest security problems on the web, and managing so many passwords is cumbersome for consumers, which often leads consumers to reuse the same ones across services. This practice can lead to costly account takeovers, data breaches, and even stolen identities. While password managers and legacy forms of two-factor authentication offer incremental improvements, there has been industry-wide collaboration to create sign-in technology that is more convenient and more secure.
The expanded standards-based capabilities will give websites and apps the ability to offer an end-to-end passwordless option. Users will sign in through the same action that they take multiple times each day to unlock their devices, such as a simple verification of their fingerprint or face, or a device PIN. This new approach protects against phishing and sign-in will be radically more secure when compared to passwords and legacy multi-factor technologies such as one-time passcodes sent over SMS.
The announcement last week extends these platform implementations to give users two new capabilities for more seamless and secure passwordless sign-ins:
Allow users to automatically access their FIDO sign-in credentials (referred to by some as a “passkey”) on many of their devices, even new ones, without having to re-enroll every account.
Enable users to use FIDO authentication on their mobile device to sign in to an app or website on a nearby device, regardless of the OS platform or browser they are running.
In addition to facilitating a better user experience, the broad support of this standards-based approach will enable service providers to offer FIDO credentials without needing passwords as an alternative sign-in or account recovery method.
These new capabilities are expected to become available across Apple, Google, and Microsoft platforms over the course of the coming year.
Here is an illustration of the envisaged experience
This looks like a familiar system for anyone with phone-based two-factor authentication set up, but this is a replacement for the password rather than an additional factor.
Companies have been trying to go “passwordless” for years, but getting there has been tough. Will FIDO get it done? Only time will tell :)
We all want to be accepted and loved by others. It is a nearly universal human desire. After all, we evolved to survive better in groups, where fitting in and having the trust and respect of our peers are the measures of success. The need to belong is in our DNA.
But sometimes that need takes center stage, and what others think about us takes on more importance than what we think about ourselves. We may analyze each look and word that comes our way for clues that we’ve been judged and found acceptable or lacking. Someone passing in the hall without a hello may leave us red-faced and convinced we don’t deserve notice. We may people-please, always putting others first, which leaves us open to being taken advantage of while we chase praise. We may exhaust ourselves trying to be cool enough, hard-working enough, attractive enough, or successful enough to feel valued.
What’s behind this anxiety about being liked, and why are some of us so much more vulnerable to it than others?
Healthy striving is self-focused: ‘How can I improve?’ Perfectionism is other-focused: ‘What will they think?’
Brené Brown, “The Gifts of Imperfection”
If you recognize that you are someone who’s anxious about being liked, there are steps you can take to get back to a healthier relationship with others and with yourself.
1. Keep things in perspective. It’s said that people would care a lot less about what others think about them if they knew how little others think about them. And it’s true: Everyone has enough to occupy their mind. They also have their own insecurities. If you’re worried about how you come across to someone you’ve just met, keep in mind that they’re probably doing the same.
2. Question your thinking. We tend toward patterns of negative thinking that can hurt our mood or behavior. For example, we may assume the worst, or filter out the good in a situation and pay attention only to the bad. Or we may overgeneralize or jump to conclusions. Pay attention to your thoughts, and question them rather than allowing impressions to run away with you. You may discover that what you’re fretting over exists only in your mind.
3. Let go of perfection. It can be hard to shake the feeling that if you just get things right, you will be loved and admired. But this is a fruitless pursuit, not only because perfection is an illusion, but because what people think about you has more to do with them than with you.
4. Get to know yourself. What do you really like? What do you really want? Are you making choices about your career, relationships, and pastimes because you want them or because they’ll please or impress someone else? Allow yourself to try new things and wonder, “What would I pursue or enjoy if I wasn’t so worried about being judged?”
5. Find your tribe. Somewhere out there are people who can identify with you and appreciate you for who you are. Don’t waste time trying to hang on to those who expect you to conform to their wishes and wants. Cultivate authenticity, and you’ll find those you are meant to be with.
Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.
Brené Brown, “Daring Greatly“
6. Allow yourself to be vulnerable. It can be terrifying to go against the grain, speak out, take a risk, or face disapproval. But decide what matters to you, trust yourself, and go for it. We don’t grow by always playing it safe; we grow by allowing ourselves a chance to fail.
7. Accept a helping hand. The anxiety you feel about what others think can sometimes be overcome with a little self-awareness. But in some cases, especially for those with underlying trauma or mental health issues, professional help can help you get to the root of your feelings. Allow yourself to reach out for the care you need rather than prolonging your suffering.
8. Be your own friend. It’s a tough reality, but you will never be able to make everyone like you, no matter what you do. But look on the bright side: No one else can do it, either. So accept the twinges that will inevitably come when you realize you haven’t made a connection with someone, and focus instead on a goal that will take you further toward being the kind of person you want to be—learning to like yourself, flaws and all.
In conclusion, this quote sums things up perfectly
What other people think of me is none of my business.
As managers, we are expected to provide an exceptional level of support to our teams. And this support could cover both technical and non-technical, even emotional support. This is extremely hard work and requires plenty of patience, trust and understanding on both sides.
The Triangle
“1 to 1” relationship between manager and reports
There are many ways to build this A-grade level of support. 1-on-1s are great and widely used as the personal connection definitely helps to make a difference. Most managers have more than one direct report and their attention is spread across all their direct reports. Some need more attention than the others, while some demand more attention. This subsequently leads to leaving others with less support.
Your model looks like a triangle where everyone depends on you with every person needing a different amount of attention at any given point of time.
Your attention must be distributed wisely.
Every person reporting to you is unique in their own way and more importantly all of your direct reports may not have the same level of skills. Add the different complexities of the projects they are on, some have crazy weeks while others are pretty relaxed.
What could go wrong?
Neglecting Talent: You may miss out on focusing on talent that may need more attention than you are giving.
Blind Spots: In the middle of your busy schedule, you may miss catching on a few non-verbal cues from your team that will help throw light on why they may not be performing well enough.
Out of your League: You may have to deal with an issue that you may feel less competent to deal with, for example a new technology that you haven’t had the time to explore.
So what can you do? How can you provide such comprehensive support without spreading so thin that it will impact your other responsibilities?
The Cone Model
Create a many-to-many support network
The essence of the Cone Model is to minimize your dependencies while maximising the network between your team members. Instead of letting all your team depend on you for their growth, you should create a connection between people, leveraging the different strengths and weaknesses.
Continue with your 1-on-1s and while you do that identify a need that someone else on your team can assist with. At the same time ensuring expectations are set so that your team and network is fully aligned to what you have in mind.
How can a good network look?
Linda supports Henry: Coding in our tech stack
Paul supports Linda: On software architecture and system design
Paul also supports Denny: Coding in our tech stack
Denny supports Henry: Team collaboration and communication
And you support everyone :)
An internal network of support
How do you know if your cone model is working? Here is the answer:
Managers should build strong networks and create an environment where they are not critical components. They should be able to stay away for a few weeks without impacting the team.
Leaping without knowing where you’ll land on the other side can be extremely scary. But taking risks is necessary for growth. All of the greatest things in life require a leap of faith. You cannot fall in love if you don’t let down your walls and leap. You most likely won’t advance in your career if you don’t allow yourself to put in the hard work to make it happen. And you cannot connect with the Universe unless you lay down your sword and learn to lead with and embrace love.
It’s called a leap of faith for a reason. But what is faith exactly?
Faith is the belief in something larger, grander and more powerful than you. Faith is the belief that you cannot fail, you can only learn. Faith is the belief that you’re always being guided by love.
I like to think of my faith as an interconnected network of tree roots: No matter what storms may come my way, I will remain unshakeable and stand tall; I may bend, but I shall never break; I am grounded yet boundless. And yet, despite all of the strength I garner from my faith, it can still be difficult to accept this truth.
Fear is powerful, but faith persists. Fear says, “why try?” but faith says, “why not?” Fear whispers that you need to ration your love, but faith whispers that love is the only thing that lasts. Fear builds walls, but faith builds bridges.
So how do you take a leap of faith? I came across this lovely infographic by Chris Rackliffe
Here are the 7 things that will likely happen when you take a leap of faith in yourself and throw yourself into the unknown. Because, hey, the sky is the limit and the world is your oyster!
1. You will discover who you truly are 2. You will learn to make yourself feel “whole”. 3. You will always feel excited and anew. 4. You will have no fear. 5. You will be more intuitive. 6. You will feel a complete sense of freedom. 7. You will achieve great things.
If you look at the world’s greatest leaders, they have always followed their passion and used their innate talents to become successful. Listen to your heart and follow that. It may take a few years to figure it out. It may take a decade to get to where you want to go as the straight way through might be too risky. However, you just have to start now. Don’t feel scared or feel that you’re inadequate. You can achieve what you believe you can. Most important of all, you need to have faith in yourself.
Upma used to be served everyday in a hostel of 100 inmates. Out of the 100 students, 80 complained and asked to be given different tiffin items every day. But 20 students were happy to eat upma every day.
In order to come to a decision, the warden arranged for voting. Whichever tiffin gets the majority will be served. The 20 students who wanted upma voted promptly. The remaining 80 students voted as per their choice:
Absolutely love this story on doing all you can while you are alive.
A rich Goan landlord once asked his parish priest : ‘Why does everybody call me stingy when everyone knows that when I die I will leave everything I have to this church?’
The priest answered: ‘There once was a pig and a cow in this village. The pig was unpopular and the cow was loved by all in the village. This puzzled the pig.
The pig said to the cow: ‘People speak warmly of your good nature and your helpful attitude. They think you are very generous because each day you give them milk, butter and cheese. But what about me ? I give them everything I have. I give them the famous Goa sausages, bacon and ham. I also provide ingredients for mouth-watering sorpotel. Yet no one likes me. Why is that?’
The priest continued: ‘Do you know what the cow answered ? The Cow said: Perhaps it’s because I give while I am still living’!!!
Once upon a time, what happened did happen…..or you wouldn’t be hearing this story!! A merchant on a casual jaunt through a market, came across a fine specimen of a camel for sale. The merchant and the camel seller, both skilled negotiators, struck a hard bargain. The camel seller pleased with his skill of worming out what he felt was a very good price, parted with his camel and the merchant chuffed that he had struck a fantastic bargain, proudly walked home with the latest addition to his large livestock.
On arriving home, the merchant called to his servant to come and help him take out the camel’s saddle. The unwieldy heavily padded saddle being too difficult for the servant to manage on his own. Hidden under the saddle, the servant found a small velvet pouch which on opening he discovered to be filled with precious jewels!!
The servant was overexcited!!! “Master you bought a camel…..but see what came FREE along with it!!!”
The merchant was astonished as he looked at the jewels in his servants’ palm. They were of extraordinary quality sparkling and twinkling in the sunlight. “I bought the camel” he said, “not the jewels. I must return them to the camel seller immediately.”
The servant was aghast…..his master was really foolish. “Master…..no one will know.”
But the merchant headed right back to the market and handed over the velvet pouch back to the camel seller. The camel seller was very happy, ” I had forgotten that I hid these jewels in the saddle for safe keeping.” “Here, choose one of the jewels for yourself, as a reward.” The merchant said “I paid a fair price for the camel and the camel only, so NO thank you, I do not need any reward.”
But as much as the merchant refused, the camel seller insisted.
Finally the merchant said, sheepishly smiling, ” Actually when I decided to bring the pouch back to you, I already took two of the most precious jewels and kept them for myself.”
At this confession the camel seller was a bit flabbergasted and quickly emptied the pouch to count the jewels. However he was very confused. “All my jewels are here. What jewels did you keep?
“The two most precious” said the merchant.
” My INTEGRITY and my SELF-RESPECT “
Integrity is the ability to do the right thing or choosing to do the right thing when you could get away with doing the wrong thing.
When I saw this quote, the following story immediately came to mind. On March 10, 1748, John Newton, a 22-year-old English seaman who had worked in the slave trade, was traveling home on a merchant ship after a series of misadventures, including being captured and enslaved in Sierra Leone. On that day, a violent storm struck just off the coast of Donegal, Ireland. Rocks ripped a hole in the side of the ship, and it seemed unlikely that the vessel would make it safely to shore. Newton prayed and committed to devote his life to Christianity if the ship was spared. At that moment—the story goes—the ship’s cargo shifted, covering the hole and allowing the ship to limp to port.
Newton kept his promise, eventually becoming an Anglican priest. Most famous perhaps for composing the hymn “Amazing Grace,” the former slave trader dedicated himself to ending the slave trade. In 1787, he joined efforts with others to found the Society for Effecting the Abolition of the Slave Trade. Their members included Olaudah Equiano, a former slave whose storytelling abilities and autobiography made the horrors of slavery real. Josiah Wedgwood, an industrialist, created a logo for the campaign that inspired empathy and connected with the horrifying inhumanity of slavery. The emblem pictured an enslaved man on his knees, in chains, encircled by the words “Am I not a man and a brother?” It appeared on snuffboxes, cufflinks, and jewelry throughout Europe. Newton himself wrote a pamphlet titled Thoughts Upon the African Slave Trade, which detailed conditions on slave ships, and which he sent to every member of parliament.
Together they created what is often regarded as the world’s first infographic: a cutaway map of the Brookes slave ship, showing how slaves were stacked and chained. They posted these images in taverns and pubs throughout Europe. (See image below.)
Copies of this cutaway map of a slave ship, created in 1787, were posted in taverns across Europe. Regarded by some as the world’s first infographic, it made a powerful case against slavery. (Image courtesy of the British Library)
As part of their campaign, they launched a boycott of sugar, a product purchased mostly by women, who made most decisions about the foods and products their families consumed. The campaign reduced the demand for sugar by 30 percent, showing that the tie between economic dependence on slave labor and products in demand across Europe could be severed.
Their work eventually succeeded. In 1807, Parliament passed the Abolition of the Slave Trade Act, which banned British ships from engaging in the slave trade. Their efforts are widely regarded as one of the first social justice campaigns. What these men accomplished contains the hallmarks of any effective campaign and conveys lessons we can apply today.
So what does make people care?
The questions which come to mind: Why should I care about you? Why should I care about your problems, your challenges, whether or not your day is going well, your child is sick, or your job is stressful? I don’t even know you and may never even meet you. Why do you, a stranger, matter to someone who will never know your name?
In simple words: Because it’s the right thing to do.
Each of us expresses this care in different ways, some in anger, some in tears, some in debates and discussions. But the way I love best is by actions. Deeds not words, Facta non Verba (my school motto!), walking the talk. There are soooo many needs and there are many ways to show you care. There are children going hungry all around the world. There are seniors unable to pay their bills. There are animals being abused, retired military men and women left alone after their service to the country, people in every neighborhood struggling with mental illness, drug abuse, and worse.
We need each other. We have to come together, to give of ourselves and to offer an outstretched hand. It isn’t easy work and sometimes we can get overwhelmed by all the need. But, in those moments, maybe we can retreat for a day or so and nurse ourselves a bit until we feel strong enough, and then get back out there.
Why should I care about you? Because we’re all in this together.
On 6th May 2021, as I was recovering from covid, I had decided to get back to writing and sharing with the world a little of what goes on in my head every day. Today I complete a year of sharing an article a day (sometimes even 2 articles a day!). The journey hasn’t been easy, but I absolutely loved putting this all together and more importantly for the lovely feedback I kept getting right through the year!
I shall still keep writing, not as frequently as I have been doing, but yes, will keep it going for sure! :)
Unfortunately, we humans have not been very good stewards of the Earth over the years. To protect the environment and preserve the planet for our children and future generations, we all need to take proactive steps toward cleaner living habits.
Whether it’s gas, food, clothing, cars, furniture, water, toys, electronics, knick-knacks or other goods, we are all consumers. The key is not to stop consuming, but to start being mindful of our consumption habits and how each purchase or action affects the ecosystem.
The good news is that it’s often not too difficult, expensive, or inconvenient to become more environmentally friendly. It can even be a fun challenge to implement among your family or coworkers. And though small changes at the individual level may seem trivial, just think how much cleaner the planet would be if everyone adopted even a few of the following behavior modifications.
Here are 8 ways you can start to protect the environment today:
1. Consume less.
Curbing consumption can have a huge impact on the environment. The three “R’s”—reduce, reuse and recycle— get a lot of attention, but the planet could benefit from some focus on the most important and most underrepresented “R”: refuse.
When you refuse, you say “no,” which is not always easy. Freebies at events, cheap goods on clearance, the hot new children’s toys or the latest gadgets that promise to make your life better—none of these are essential. And they almost always end up either in the trash or forgotten in the back of a closet. Next time you’re tempted to purchase or accept a non-essential item, think about whether it would truly improve your life. If not, it’s ok to just say, “No, thanks!”
2. Compost.
Another “R” that doesn’t get much attention but has important environmental implications is “rot.” As in, let your food and yard waste rot naturally in the soil instead of sending it to the landfill. In other words: compost.
Composting your food scraps and yard waste offers double rewards: it keeps an incredible amount of trash out of the waste stream, and it produces free, rich soil to use in your garden. Some cities now pick up organic waste alongside regular trash and recycling pick up. If your area doesn’t offer this service, no worries— you can set up a low-maintenance compost pile in your backyard.
3. Choose reusable over single-use
Think about how many people you see each day drinking beverages from disposable cups or disposable bottles, sipping from disposable straws, carrying disposable grocery bags, eating from disposable plates or containers and using disposable utensils. All that single-use plastic has to go somewhere, and it’s had a devastating effect on our soil, oceans and marine life.
All of the above items (and more) have more environmentally responsible counterparts. Switch to reusable items and make a commitment to use them as often as possible. You’ll have less trash piling up at your curb, and you’ll be helping to protect the environment in a major way.
4. Upcycle more.
Get creative with your useless or unwanted items by upcycling—basically, turning trash into treasure. Creating something new such as artwork, toys or jewelry is both satisfying and one of the best ways to protect the environment. Not only does it keep items out of the trash, it can prevent having to purchase new items, which require lots of resources to produce. Children love making things; so instead of heading to the craft store, check out your recycle bin first and let their imaginations soar!
5. Recycle properly.
If you can’t refuse it…and you can’t rot it…and you can’t reduce it…and you can’t upcycle or reuse it…then it’s time to turn to the final “R”—recycling. Educate yourself on what can and cannot be recycled in your bins at home. Throwing the wrong items in the recycle bin can result in an entire load being rejected, which means … back to the landfill.
You can also easily find out how to recycle special items such as electronics, batteries and appliances. Check with your local municipality for drop-off sites, and make an effort to get your items to the proper disposal sites.
6. Buy local.
With regards to shopping, it’s important to think about the path your stuff takes just to get to you. All that packaging, combined with the fuel needed for delivery, really takes a toll on the environment. Instead, check out your local farmers market for fresh, package-free food; try eating at a farm-to-table restaurant; and buy from local artists, clothing makers, and retailers before you click for that two-day shipping.
7. Use fewer chemicals.
Want to protect the environment? Use fewer harmful chemicals and you’ll be on the right track. It’s hard to be sure about the long-term negative effects chemicals can have, both on our bodies and on the planet, so it’s best to avoid them if possible. Opt for chemical-free lawn and garden care; all-natural beauty and hygiene items; natural household cleaners; and organic food. The Earth will thank you!
8. Use less water.
Conserving water at home is one of the easiest ways to protect the environment. Think of all the times you consume water, both inside and outside your home; then, make adjustments as you can. For example:
Turn off the tap while you brush your teeth.
Fix leaky faucets.
Make your water use more efficient by aerating faucets, using sprinklers that reduce runoff and installing low-flow toilets and efficient shower heads.
Collect and use rainwater for watering plants.
Shorten your shower by a few minutes.
Only run your dishwasher or washing machine when it’s full
I came across this lovely infographic from oceanservice.noaa.gov
Protecting our planet starts with you. Here are just a few of the things you can do.
Do you catch yourself spending a lot of time focusing on your future, meticulously planning it to the last detail and sacrificing the present moment for some illusory sense of happiness. Often we are too busy thinking of the future, seeing what we will do after we get that dream job, plan our dream vacation. Under the pretext of chasing our dreams, we destroy ourselves by neglecting our mental and physical needs and striving for happiness as a reward for our hard work. We fail to realise that by focusing too much on the future, we completely miss the beautiful present moment which is all we’ll ever have.
Most of us have a blueprint of the perfect life we want to lead and then we live life like a zombie trying to complete all the tasks on our to-do lists and belittling ourselves when we fail to reach the impossible standards we’ve set for ourselves. While making a plan of where we want to go is definitely a good idea, it is okay to steer off course a bit sometimes and simply follow the whims of our hearts. In fact, instead of planning every moment, it is more beneficial to simply throw yourself into things and go with the flow. Instead of wasting time sketching out the future and procrastinating, it is better to start doing things even if you don’t have the end in mind.
It is a lot like writing a novel. Instead of trying to work out the ending and fates of every character from the beginning itself, it is okay to start with a rough sketch and then experiment and let intuition guide you.
If you want to be successful, then you must appreciate the importance of living in the present. Always remember, the best preparation for tomorrow, is doing your best today. Here are some tips to motivate you to make the most of the present.
1. Be Grateful For The Little Things: Start a gratitude journal or take time out to appreciate the things going well in your life, or the things you take for granted. Find the good in every situation and look for miracles in the mundane.
2. Train Yourself To Do One Thing At A Time: Don’t work on too many projects no matter how big your ambitions are. Finish one task at a time. Take it one day at a time, and soon you’ll be surprised at how much you’ve managed to accomplish.
3. Ask Yourself Questions To Be In The Present: Remind yourself of where you are by asking yourself, ‘Is this what I should be doing right now?’, ‘Am I feeling happy doing this thing?’, ‘What is the one thing I can do to make today count?’ Become self-aware and listen to your feelings.
4. Schedule Some ‘Me Time’ And Make The Most Of It: Make some time out of your busy schedule to indulge in a creative hobby, enjoy the beauty of nature or whatever it is that you do to chill. Not only will it help you relax, it will also aid you in focusing better at your tasks.
In other words, instead of waiting to get started, START NOW. If we really want to be prepared for tomorrow, we need to give our best effort today rather than only worrying about the uncertain tomorrow.
Kenrick Vaz 