We spend a lot of our time reacting and responding to people and situations around us. And often, we react/respond without thinking. It is an instinctive reaction, spontaneous, a gut reaction, based on fear and insecurities, and it’s not the most rational or appropriate way to act. I admire those who are cool and calm,Continue reading “The 90% rule that puts you 100% in control”
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The Art of Being Tactful
At Xavier’s, I was member of a group called AICUF (All India Catholic University Federation) that organises various activities, keeping three objectives: Social Outreach, Personality Development, and Spiritual Growth. And as part of the core organising team, we had a session on feedback to help us improve and grow. I smiled when I saw “IContinue reading “The Art of Being Tactful”
Be Flawsome!
I came across this post on LinkedIn a few days back and it just brought a big smile to my face. We are all fallible human beings and we live in a world of flaws. And yet ironically, most of us (including myself!) place a high value on perfection. Why chase a facade of unattainableContinue reading “Be Flawsome!”
Competition
I’ve never liked competition. Do I need to see someone else lose to feel better about myself? Do I need a bigger house or a fancier car to be happy? Do I need to put others down to get that promotion at work? Here in India, right from the time we’re in school, we areContinue reading “Competition”
Challenge the Status Quo
I recently joined Brillio and as part of the onboarding journey, we were taken through the company culture and values. One of the four values is an Entrepreneurial Spirit, to always challenge the status quo with a ‘can do’ attitude. Smart people, by their very design and nature, will not automatically be “yes” men. TheyContinue reading “Challenge the Status Quo”
Mistakes = Learning Lessons
If we look around at people we consider successes, we will see that their success is a result of a lot of mistakes. Like Albert Einstein said, failure really is just success in progress. Thomas Edison famously developed thousands of prototypes of the light bulb before finding the one that worked. If you’d rather not toContinue reading “Mistakes = Learning Lessons”
Listen to Understand
Listening to reply is the standard way that most people communicate. What that means is that instead of really paying attention to what the other person is saying, you are already thinking about what you want to say in response. Of course it’s great to have a well-thought-out reply, but if you’re thinking about what you wantContinue reading “Listen to Understand”
Ride the Wave
The ocean has so much to teach us! I grew up in Goa and we used to visit the beach often for a swim. We’ve had waves that are big, sometimes they are small, and sometimes they are almost imperceptible. The water’s waves are churned up by the winds, which come and go and varyContinue reading “Ride the Wave”
Waiting on the World to Change
We all have had lofty dreams of changing the world and making a difference. At times, I am so frustrated with all I see happening in our country, city and even our locality. We expect others to change – change their callous attitude towards the environment, the less fortunate and at times even towards us.Continue reading “Waiting on the World to Change”
The Secret, The Mirror
This quote by Paulo Coelho reminds me of the Law of Attraction from “The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne. The book introduced many people to the concept that their thoughts may influence not only their actions but the experiences that they bring into their lives as well. So what does the law of attraction mean? IfContinue reading “The Secret, The Mirror”
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