Full Page Video in Background

If you want to engage first-time visitors on your website, you have about 10 to 20 seconds to do so. Life is short, and nobody wants to waste their time on a run-of-the-mill webpage. So, how can we inject some life into our page content in a way that captures visitors’ attention and keeps them scrolling?

One option is adding a video to your website in the background. Video backgrounds take up the entire width and height of the viewport (in other words, the visible page area) and add some visual flair to boost engagement. Over this video, you can place your featured page content — after all, it is just a background, and your content is most important.

I am on the fence for this design style. A full page video background may be a bit much even if done tastefully. That aside, I am more interested in HOW to get this done. Here you go!

HTML

The autoplay attribute starts the video automatically once the page loads.
The loop attribute plays the video in an infinite loop.
The muted attribute turns off sound for the video. Refrain from playing video sound on your page unless initiated by the user. Doing so presents an accessibility issue and a potentially unpleasant user experience.

CSS

height: 100vw (viewport width) make the video extend to the full width and height of the viewport.
object-fit: cover automatically sizes the background video to keep its original aspect ratio while filling the screen, clipping out edges of the video when necessary.
position: absolute and the following left, top position the video relative to the viewport and separates it from the rest of the page content. This keeps the video in place when the user scrolls, and allows other content to sit on top of it.
z-index places the video background under accompanying content.

View source code here: Link

Think You’re a Wise Person?

The cliché “another year older, another year wiser” implies that the only way to attain the secret sauce of life is to live another year… and then another, and then another. Yes, it’s comforting to consider that logging more time here on planet Earth will naturally make you a wise person! According to Merriam-Webster, a wise person is one who possesses “deep understanding, keen discernment, and a capacity for sound judgment.” However, researchers say that the journey to becoming a “wise” person is more complex; it’s actually considered to be a modifiable trait that you can hone every single day. So if you’re wondering, “am I wise?” the answer isn’t clear-cut.

Researchers at University of California San Diego School of Medicine recently used the most up-to-date studies on life wisdom to develop a scale (called the “San Diego Wisdom Scale” or SD-WISE for short) to help you determine your life smarts—and fast. This abbreviated version of SD-WISE uses seven statements (SD-WISE-7) to size up an individual’s wisdom. A previous version of the test, the SD-WISE-28—which was used in national and international studies, as well as in biological research and clinical trials—contained 28 statements.

Wisdom measures are increasingly being used to study factors that impact mental health and optimal aging
Dilip V. Jeste, MD, senior associate dean for the Center of Healthy Aging and Distinguished Professor of Psychiatry and Neurosciences at UC San Diego School of Medicine

To determine how wise you are based on the SD-WISE-7, simply read seven statements—like “I avoid situations where I know my help will be needed,” and decide how much you agree with them on a scale of one to five. One reflects “strongly disagree” and five “strongly agree”—and negatively worded statements are reverse-scored.

So go ahead: Read through the statements below and see what resonates and what doesn’t.

“I tend to postpone making major decisions as long as I can.” (Decisiveness)
“I avoid self-reflection.” (Self-reflection)
“I avoid situations where I know my help will be needed.” (Prosocial behaviors)
“I often don’t know what to tell people when they come to me for advice.” (Social advising)
“I remain calm under pressure.” (Emotional regulation)
“I enjoy being exposed to diverse viewpoints.” (Acceptance of divergent perspectives)
“My spiritual belief gives me inner strength.” (Spirituality)

Regardless of your answers to the quiz, clinical social worker, Karen B. Walant, says one of the easiest ways for anyone to become wiser is to simply press pause.

“By gently giving ourselves permission to pause, we are able to slow down and listen to our inner thoughts, to our bodies, and to whom and what we are in contact with,” says Dr. Walant. “Pausing allows us to both receive and absorb the experience we are in. When we pause with the intent of allowing wisdom to arise, we become more able to take actions that best support our physical health and our emotional well-being and that of others.”

In addition, taking a beat before reacting to a given situation will help you cultivate qualities like kindness or compassion, which need to be exercised like a muscle in order to be maintained and grow.

To practice wisdom every day, Dr. Walant also recommends deciding which qualities you want to grow, and then actively working on them. For example, if you strongly agreed to number two of the SD-WISE-7 (“I avoid self-reflection.”), make self-reflection— via journaling, meditating, or another means—an everyday practice for you.

Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.’
Viktor Frankl

The permission to pause and be present to both what is occurring within and around us encourages a granularity of experience so that we can become the best version of ourselves.

Spend More Time Doing What You Love

It’s funny, despite the good intentions and resolutions, the reality is most new years we come back to the daily routine feeling nothing much has changed in the last year. They say the new year brings fresh motivation, and that returning to work after the proper break leaves you feeling ready to get going again which is true. But then are you truly excited and energized going back to your daily grind?

You’ve heard the cliche that life is too short. You don’t know what tomorrow brings or where you’ll end up. So why waste your time in a career that doesn’t make you happy?

Studies have shown that happy people tend to earn higher salaries, and it stands to reason that these high earners are content – at least in part – because they have jobs they love.

Enjoying your career should be a priority over earning a high salary or flashy title, but that may not have been the case when you first considered what you wanted to do for a career. Here are four reasons to change the job you’re unhappy with, along with four questions that can help you determine your next steps to finding a career you love.

1. You’ll feel more fulfilled.

Your job shouldn’t just be a source of income. If you don’t enjoy what you do, you’ll end up missing out on your life.

As the lines between working life and personal life blur, a job is as much about personal fulfillment and growth as it is about a paycheck
Philip Ryan

Your career should make you feel good emotionally, both in and out of the office.

“A job that you love … gives you extra motivation to meet your goals, and when you do, the sense of accomplishment is outstanding,” said Masanari Arai, co-founder and CEO of Kii Corporation.

You will carry and radiate that success wherever you go, helping yourself in other aspects of your life.

2. You’ll be more productive.

It’s important to feel motivated and inspired in your career. Without the drive to excel, your performance will lack passion and, in turn, your work may suffer. Productivity allows you to become more efficient, which makes room for downtime and encourages work-life balance.

If you are passionate about your job, you are likely to take an active interest in learning every aspect of the business. This not only sets you on the path toward success, it also helps you get through the daily grind.
Patrice Rice, CEO and founder of Patrice & Associates

3. You’ll inspire others.

Many people are too afraid to follow their dreams and do what they love. Think about what you would say to a friend or your loved one. Would you discourage them from doing what makes them happy simply because it’s risky? When you do take that leap yourself, you become an inspiration to others.

As a mom who works, it is so important to me to be a role model for my young daughters. While there might be busy weeks that require more time at the office, my girls know that I love my job, that it’s meaningful to me, and that I am proud of the work. It is my hope that, as my girls grow up, they are inspired to find a career that fulfills them and they are passionate about.
Keli Coughlin, executive director of The Tom Coughlin Jay Fund

4. You’ll succeed.

Michael Phillips, founder and CEO of Coconut’s Fish Cafe, said that when you enjoy your job, it doesn’t feel like work. “It makes it easier to get through the trials and tribulations of business ownership,” he added.

You won’t need someone to keep tabs on your work or motivate you to reach your full potential. You will do your best work because it’s natural and exciting.

When you love what you do, you are compelled to push against yourself. You want to be where you are challenging yourself, and you are competing with yourself in achieving your vision.
Amir Zonozi, president and co-founder of Zoomph

It’s one thing to know that you don’t love what you’re currently doing; it’s quite different to decide what you want to do next. To help you navigate your career path, consider exploring these methods to find a job you love.

1. What did you want to be as a child?

While it might seem strange to go back to your childhood dreams, they might not be far off from what you would be happy doing. Sure, not everyone can be an astronaut, but whatever that original goal might have been, the desire to pursue that career likely came from somewhere.

Think back to that dream job. Even if you no longer want it, the past goal could help you figure out what drives you. For example, those who wanted to work in law enforcement might be driven by justice or helping people. If you wanted to be a teacher, maybe you liked school or working with children. Tailor your motivators and your strengths to find that perfect position.

2. What would your friends or family say are your strengths?

Sometimes, talking to the people closest to you can help you make more informed decisions, as they see parts of you that you may overlook. Ask your loved ones what they think are your strengths, and consider what job would allow you to use those skills. You gain a different perspective when you ask others’ opinions. What you consider your strengths may differ from your family and friends’ perceptions.

3. Who was your biggest role model growing up?

Similar to talking about your dream job as a child, you might think about who you idolized while growing up. Did you love this person because they helped people? Did they have special skills that you desired? Did you find similarities between their and your abilities? By thinking about why you looked up to this person, you might find a job that would suit you. Even if you did not consider it as a child, meditating on it now might help uncover your true goals and desires.

4. What do you truly dislike doing?

It’s just as important to know your weaknesses as it is to recognize your strengths. Understanding what you dread doing can help shape your career path. If you don’t take this into account, you may find yourself back at square one and looking for another new career down the road. For example, if you hate working with long tables of data in spreadsheets, a career dealing with extensive amounts of data may not be the right move for you.

Hoping each of us discovers the things you want to spend more time doing because i’ve come to realise doing what you love really sparks my passion and just gives me a real sense of adrenaline.

Rarely Used CSS Properties

The Column-Rule Property

CSS columns is a layout method which can divide an element into columns. A common usecase is to divide a paragraph text into two or more columns. The interesting bit is that we can add borders between the columns. The column-rule property name might not reflect it’s purpose, but you can imagine it as a border right!

Background Repeat Round

This property repeats the background in both directions but it never crops the image unless a single image is too large to fit. If multiple tiles can fit, it squishes or stretches appropriately.

Styling List Markers

It’s a perfectly reasonable to want to style the marker of list items. You know: blue bullets with black text in an unordered list. Or red counters with knockout white numbers in an ordered list.

Display: inline-flex

Useful for displaying inline elements with flex functionality.

Object Fit

Object fit is used to specify how an img or video should be resized to fit it’s container.

Margin: Auto with Flexbox

Combined with flexbox, margin: auto can easily center a flex item horizontally and vertically

View source code for all above examples here: Link

Our Trip Is Short

A woman climbed up the bus and sat down beside a man, hitting him with her numerous bags.

When the man remained silent, the woman asked him why he did not complain when she hit him with her bags ?

The man replied with a Smile:
“There is no need to be upset about something so insignificant,
as our journey together is so short,
because I’m getting off at the next stop “🥰

This answer disturbed the woman so much , she asked the man to excuse her and thought the words needs to be written in✍ gold 💛

Each of us must understand that our time in this world is so short,
that darkening it with useless arguments, jealousy, not forgiving others, discontentment and bad attitudes are a ridiculous waste of time and energy.

Did someone break your heart? Stay calm.
The trip is too short.💛

Did someone betray you, intimidate, cheat or humiliate you?
Relax – Don’t be Stressed
The trip is too short.💛

Did someone insult you without reason?
Stay calm. Ignore it.
The trip is too short.💛

Did some one make a comment that you didn’t like?
Stay calm. Ignore. Forgive, keep them in your prayers & love them still for no reason.
The trip is too short.💛

Whatever the problems some bring to us,
it is a problem only if we think of it, remember
that our journey together is too short.💛

No one knows the length of our trip. No one has seen tomorrow. Nobody knows when it will arrive at its stop.

Our trip together is too short.💛

Let us appreciate friends and family. Keep them in good humor. Respect them. Let us be respectful, kind, loving & forgiving.

Because we will be filled with gratitude and joy, after all Our trip together is very short.💛

Share your smiles with everyone….choose your path to be as beautiful as you wish it to be 💛
Our trip is Very Short, 💛

Mistakes to Avoid when Chasing your Dreams

At the start of this year, many of us have made resolutions and most of these are usually centered around our dreams. Everyone always says, “Follow your dreams!” But not everyone does it. Life interjects, bills pile up, and sometimes we have to do jobs we don’t want to do just to make it through the day. So what do we do then? Go after our dreams, just daydream about it, or accept the fact that you will never achieve it?At the start of a new year many of us feel motivated to follow our dreams, to break the trend, and to live the life we’ve always wanted.

Your time is limited so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.
Steve Jobs

Pursuing our dreams isn’t an easy ride. The twists and curves you’ve encountered may have left you full of negative thoughts and doubting your ability to succeed. To keep your dreams alive, you must avoid making certain mistakes. You must realize that you’re the pilot, and you can take charge of your dreams and fly to places you’ve never been.

We dream to give ourselves hope. To stop dreaming—well, that’s like saying you can never change your fate.
Amy Tan

Here are some of the mistakes I’ve learned through experience which I’d like to share today

1. Letting discouragement overwhelm you.

Take the risk. Are you going to be scared? Oh, yes, you’ll be petrified. Remember, it’s not going to be a straight path. Take mini steps and be consistent with your work.

Even if you don’t reach the goal you’ve set, you’ll learn, grow, and perhaps even find new opportunities through the process of stretching yourself.

Believe in yourself and the possibility of your dreams coming true, without letting discouragement rob you of the faith you have in yourself.

2. Denying your current situation.

If your current situation is not ideal, don’t live in denial. If you do, you won’t be able to deal with the obstacles you’re currently facing. Doing nothing won’t change your situation or bring you any closer to your dreams. Before long, you will hit the wall and crash, and possibly fall into a depression.

Instead, accept the situation you’re in and then work toward changing it. You have more power than you realize. Trust and believe in yourself. However small the change happens, be grateful.

3. Dwelling on the past.

Holding on to a painful past will fill you with doubts when you’re trying to pursue your dreams. You won’t be able to handle obstacles that arise and you’ll spend your energy on worries and regrets.

You’ll be afraid to make decisions because of past experiences. You’ll hold yourself back from claiming opportunities when they arise.

So, let the past be gone but cling to the good memories, and when things are rocky look at the past and smile. Let the bad be a learning experience, let learning produce growth, and let growth bring you closer to your goal.

4. Procrastinating.

It can be deadly. Time wasted cannot be recovered. It’s just like a river; once you touch the water flowing past you, it will never flow back toward you again. Do what you’re supposed to do, when it’s supposed to be done.

5. Neglecting your body.

Don’t ever forget to take care of your body. Treat it like a temple. If you don’t, you will get sick, mentally and physically, and this will prevent you from working toward your goal.

However hard you’re working take time off to exercise, and don’t forget to eat healthy foods. Don’t starve yourself! :)

6. Waiting for help to chase you.

Knock on doors. Will doors be shut on you? Sure, more than you can count.

Sometimes we ask for help anticipating getting our way. Sorry, it doesn’t work that way. If doors close, go in through the window. If that means changing the course of your plan, please do so; change will not mean losing your dream.

7. Taking it personally when people judge you.

Everyone will judge you by how you look, what you eat, how you live, everything! When people judge, it has more to do with their own fears and insecurities than you

Turn a deaf ear to these judgments. Feel proud of the journey you’re taking.

8. Dwelling on the negative.

It’s impossible to only focus on the positive, but dwelling on the negative all the time is like a bomb waiting to explode. Your thoughts will hold you hostage from making progress and your mind will be filled with doubt.

Allow yourself to feel the negative. Cry if you have to, but don’t let it take over you.

Releasing your negative feelings will leave you at peace and you will be able to focus on the positive even in tough times.

A positive attitude will help you decide the best strategy for achieving your goals.

9. Comparing yourself to others.

Comparison leads to jealousy and envy. It can kill friendships if not tamed.

Celebrate the success of others instead of being jealous. Let them know you admire them. Turn the focus on what you have instead of what you don’t have and be grateful for it.

10. Trying to get approval for your dream.

Your dream is a vehicle, and you’re the driver. Don’t let the passengers map the road for you. Stop trying to win over the people who don’t believe in you and criticize you. Only seek help from those who support your mission and encourage you, because they will cheer you on along the way.

Hold fast to your dream.

Gear up to fight the storms.

Keep that banner shining.

Never give up, and never give in.

Stand up and face the fear!

Your dream is counting on you.

Do you believe you can pursue it?

Happy New Year

As we start this new year, I thought I’d share this lovely message I received from a friend.

I want to share two old stories with you, and see how you would choose in these situations.

Story One
A certain company had a tradition of holding a party and a lottery every Christmas Eve.

The rules of the lottery draw were as follows: each employee pays ten dollars as a fund. There were three hundred people in the company. In other words, a total of three thousand dollars can be raised. The winner takes all the money home.

On the day of the lottery draw, the office was filled with a lively atmosphere. Everyone wrote their names on the slips of paper and put them in the lottery box.

However, a young man hesitated when he wrote. Because he thought that the company’s Cleaning lady’s frail and sickly son was going to have an operation soon after the dawn of New Year but she did not have the required money to pay for the operation, which made her quite troubled.

So, even though he knew that the chance of winning was slim, with only a 0.33 percent chance, the man wrote the name of the Cleaner lady on the note.

The tense moment came. The boss doubled in the lottery box, and finally drew out a note. The man also kept praying in his heart: hoping against hope that the Cleaning lady can win the prize…Then the boss carefully announced the winner’s Name, a miracle happened!

The winner turned out to be the Cleaning lady. Cheers broke out in the office, and the Cleaning lady hurriedly rushed to the stage to accept the award. She almost burst into tears and said, ” I am so fortunate and blessed! With this money, my son now has hope!”

At the beginning of the party, while thinking about this “Christmas miracle”, the man paced to the lottery box.
He took out a piece of paper and opened it casually.
The name on it was also the name of the Cleaning lady!
The man was very surprised.
He took out several pieces of paper one after another.
Although the handwriting on them was different, the names were all the same, all of them were the names of the Cleaning lady The man’s eyes were filled with tears and he clearly understood that there was a Christmas miracle in the world, but the miracle will not fall from the sky, the people were required to create it by themselves!

“Story Two”
One afternoon, I went for a walk with a friend in the suburbs. Suddenly, an old man in tattered clothes approached us with a bag of green vegetables in his hand.
The sales of those vegetables on that day were very poor, the leaves seemed dehydrated and yellowish and there were holes in them as if bitten by insects.
But my friend bought three bags without saying a word.
The old man also embarrassedly explained: “I grew these vegetables myself. It rained a while ago, and the vegetables were soaked. They look ugly. I’m sorry.”

After the old man left, I asked my friend: “Will you really cook these when you go home?”

He didn’t want to say No to me. ” These vegetables can no longer be eaten.”

“Then why did you take the trouble of buying them?” I asked.

He replied, “Because it is impossible for anyone to buy those vegetables.
If I don’t buy it, the old man will probably have no income for today.”

I admired my friend’s thoughtfulness and concern, so I caught up with the old man and bought some vegetables from him.
The old man said very happily, “I tried to sell them the whole day , but no one was ready to buy them.
I am so happy that you both were willing to buy from me…
Thank you so much.”

Several handfuls of green vegetables that I can’t eat at all taught me a valuable lesson.

When we are in a low ebb, we all hope that miracles will happen to us; but when we are capable, are we willing to be the one who creates miracles?!!!

After reading these two stories you have two choices:

1) You can spread it, spread the positive message, and make the world love more.

2) You can also ignore it fully as if you never saw it.

However, your little sharing action may illuminate the destiny of countless unfortunate people. People become successful not only because their dreams get fulfilled, but also even more successful because of their compassionate deeds. You become transformed when you are willing to learn to be compassionate to others.

As we start this new year, let us strive to spread positivity and love every day!

New Day’s Lyric

Poet Amanda Gorman has released a new work, just in time for the year’s end. And like her most famous poem, “The Hill We Climb,” her latest aims to uplift its listeners during a challenging time.

Instagram shared a video of Gorman reciting the poem inside an empty theater.

Read on for Gorman’s full poem, transcribed by Instagram:

May this be the day

Mourning, we come to mend,

We come together.

Withered, we come to weather,

Torn, we come to tend,

Battered, we come to better.

Tethered by this year of yearning,

We are learning

That though we weren’t ready for this,

We have been readied by it.

We steadily vow that no matter

How we are weighed down,

We must always pave a way forward.

This hope is our door, our portal.

Even if we never get back to normal,

Someday we can venture beyond it,

To leave the known and take the first steps.

So let us not return to what was normal,

But reach toward what is next.

What was cursed, we will cure.

What was plagued, we will prove pure.

Where we tend to argue, we will try to agree,

Those fortunes we forswore, now the future we foresee,

Where we weren’t aware, we’re now awake;

Those moments we missed

Are now these moments we make,

The moments we meet,

And our hearts, once all together beaten,

Now all together beat.

Come, look up with kindness yet,

For even solace can be sourced from sorrow.

We remember, not just for the sake of yesterday,

But to take on tomorrow.

We heed this old spirit,

In a new day’s lyric,

In our hearts, we hear it:

For auld lang syne, my dear,

For auld lang syne.

Be bold, sang Time this year,

Be bold, sang Time,

For when you honor yesterday,

Tomorrow ye will find.

Know what we’ve fought

Need not be forgot nor for none.

It defines us, binds us as one,

Come over, join this day just begun.

For wherever we come together,

We will forever overcome.

End of Year Reflections

Today is the last day of the year! The end of the year is a time of excitement and reflection. We’re eager to start a new chapter and make a fresh start. Some of us are also reflecting on the past 12 months and reflecting on what went well and what didn’t. We’re contemplating what we can do better.

A basic question that we can all ask is, “Was this year mostly a good year or a bad year?” People will usually think of one or two major life events that determined how the year went. If you had a good year, it’s likely one of these things probably happened for you:

Started a new job or career
Got married
Bought a new house
Started a family
Gained financial freedom, Freedom from all your loans

There are probably other things that may have made someone’s year good, but this probably covers most of you reading this. If your year wasn’t as good, it’s likely one of these things happened:

Lost your job
Got a divorce
Lost a loved one
Dealt with a serious illness
Financial loss

These and other factors are probably the reason some of you may feel your year was difficult. Whether your time was good or bad, there are lessons that can be learned from your mistakes.

Unexpected moments in life happen, but our mind has the power to interpret those moments in a way that either helps or hurts us. You can choose to view what happened in the past year as an opportunity to learn and develop, or something that prevents you from moving forward. Through learning the lessons and changing accordingly, we have a chance of making the next year a successful one.

Reflection is a key tool of personal development that can help you achieve more of what you want. Here are some of the questions that help me as I reflect on the year that’s ending.

What moments were good this past year?

What moments were bad this past year?

What things did you do right?

What mistakes did you make?

How did you grow as a person?

How would you have done things differently?

What are you grateful for?

What can you learn more about to make yourself better?

What are your goals and resolutions you plan to achieve next year?

What are some actions you can do to improve next year?

In this year, we saw people doing their best to return to life as they remember it. You may have managed to accomplish that in some ways, but failed in others. But you’ve made it through and you can keep pushing towards living the life that you desire in January. It’s ok if you feel lost and unmotivated today or if you have made mistakes this year. Tomorrow is a brand new start! You are still worthy, loveable and awesome! :)

Truth Triumphs

“Satyamev Jayate” or “Truth always triumphs” has been a phrase we here in India are quite familiar with . Since times immemorial, it has been believed that truth always triumphs and this has been rightly emphasized by the Father of the Nation, Mahatma Gandhi. We achieved independence using the massive weapon .”Satyagraha” which means “The force born out of truth”. How true! Truth generates a force from it, a powerful force which cannot be overlooked.

A person may have several virtues but it is his honesty that sets him apart. It stands as a hallmark to his character. Truth brings with it purity. Truth makes a person strong and builds a concrete personality. Our epics too tell us that a person emerges victorious only if he abides by the truth. In the Mahabharata, it was the truthful Pandavas who emerge victorious after the end of the battle. Though the Kauravas resorted to deceitful means to overpower the Pandavas, it was the Pandavas who emerged victorious. In the Ramayana too Lord Rama achieved victory through his truthfulness and honesty.

While it is true that we see many people climbing up the ladder of success through dishonest means, it is equally true that at the end such success is only short lived. When a person is truthful, not only he is admired but he also commands respect from everyone around him. You may have read the story of the lion and the cow. The lion wants to kill the cow but the cow pleads with the lion saying it has to feed its baby. The lion does not agree to it at first but after repeated persuasions, it agrees to the cow’s request. The lion thinks that the cow has fled but when it returns the lion is filled with love for the cow. It does not kill the cow and leaves it free . Isn’t this a good example to show how truth helps us and how being truthful can save us too!

The classic “Merchant of Venice “ is a another good example. While Shylock is prosperous and rich due to dishonest means, at the end of it all he had to suffer while Antonio , the truthful merchant becomes prosperous . A life of lies will only lead to misery. What starts out as one lie leads to another and the list goes on and on. It would amount to discomfort, guiltiness and worthlessness in the mind of the person. When a person is truthful , he is satisfied. Isn’t that the eventual destination everyone looks for? But when one is not honest, he/she may be getting richer and prosperous but their conscious keeps on pricking. When a person is not truthful, he stands defeated — not in front of anyone else but in his/her own eyes. Isn’t this the most shameful defeat ?