Healing Prayers

Pain and suffering are, unfortunately, a reality of life. At some point in our lives, we will hurt, or someone around us will hurt. There may be a life-changing accident or soul-crushing diagnosis that will shake us to our souls. It can be worse to see a loved one (family member or friend) in pain. Many a mother has said, “I would take on my child’s pain if I could!”

Seeing a loved one in pain can leave us feeling helpless, hopeless, and angry. We ask God, “Why did You let this happen, Lord?” and feel that “There’s nothing I can do!” There is something we can do – we can always pray! But does really everybody know how to pray for healing for someone else? Here are a few prayers that I came across on Oprah Daily

Put Yourself Out There

Do you think you are an introvert or an over-thinker or a perfectionist? Or maybe all these three? Even having just one of these qualities makes it that much harder to get out there and show the world the real you. And if you’re not putting yourself out there, no one will know who you are, what you’re doing and what you are capable of achieving.

I hear often from people who burst with ideas but decline to share them because they dislike the spotlight. Maybe you fear others judging you and your work. Or you’re uncomfortable with self-promotion. Or perhaps you’re afraid of failure, or of success.

So many fears, so many ideas worth sharing. What to do? Here are some ideas to help you power through these disabling emotions.

1. Know that you’re in good company. People have always had to put themselves out there. We tend to think that in the good old days, no one had to self-promote the way we do today. True—but if they wanted to share, or lead, or create, they had to go public with their thoughts too. And this has always been scary. Darwin waited 34 years to publish his idea that humans evolved from monkeys. Scholars call this “Darwin’s Delay,” and many believe it was due to his fear that others would judge his heretical for the times theory.

2. When it comes to social media, think self-expression, not self-promotion. Blogging and tweeting, if practiced properly, feel more like a creative project than an exercise in self-disclosure even though, of course, they are both. They also don’t require the in-person social multi-tasking that many people find so exhausting.

3. Think of it as connecting, not promoting. Self-promotion has a bad wrap. When done wrong, it feels slimy and pushy. First, remind yourself that you’re connecting to other people and building relationships. Let go of the attachment to what’s in it for you. Instead, talk about your work and your projects as a jumping off point for getting to know others and allowing them to get to know you, whether in person or on social media. Share from a place of passion and enthusiasm; it will be contagious!

4. Decide what you’ll share. The internet is a big place. So it’s easy to feel vulnerable — like you could potentially share too much or say things that you regret down the road. It’s important to think about what you are and aren’t comfortable sharing in advance, and set boundaries around the topics that are off limits.

5. Start small. Practice sharing bits and pieces of your story with people in person, and see what people respond to the most. You can also experiment by writing an email to your list or publishing a blog post and sharing it with people you trust. The more you practice putting yourself out there, the easier it will be.

6. Call on your support system. If you’re about to do something really bold, tell your friends about it. Ask them to be there for the event itself (if you’re trying to go live on Instagram, for example). Or ask them to be there for you when it’s all over — either to celebrate your big win or to pick up your spirits if it didn’t go as planned. Knowing you have people in your corner can give you that extra boost of confidence.

And, when the time comes, to be there for them too.

7. Strengthen your backbone and, therefore, your confidence in small steps. Get in the habit of asking yourself where you stand on various questions. When you have firm opinions or a strong sense of right or wrong on a given question, savor the feeling.

The point is to get used to the feeling of having a center and operating from it. Then, produce more consequential ideas from this same place. You’ll still have doubts, of course: “Does it make sense? Will people agree?” That’s normal. But you need to have confidence about the underlying purpose of your undertaking.

What are your tips for putting yourself out there fearlessly? I would love to hear from you!

When God Wrecks Your Plans

The pandemic has definitely shown us very clearly that we are living in a time of uncertainty. Our lives changed in the blink of an eye. It has changed the way we school and work. It has changed the way we interact with others and canceled many plans.

We hear of uncertainty all the time. Uncertainty is the state of not being completely confident, or sure of something. Uncertainty can also sometimes bring along his little friend: anxiety. Anxiety is an emotion made up of feelings of tension, worried thoughts, and physical changes like increased blood pressure.

Quite often, anxiety can rush into our lives making us think we have to be something, do something, or have something before a certain timeframe. When things do not go according to plan, we often tend to worry. 

In today’s age, there is so much pressure to go to college, get a degree, a good job, get married, and buy a nice house with a big backyard. While none of these things are bad, we really have to ask ourselves “What does God want for me?” If you are going to live for God, He is by no means required to adhere to your timeframe or your plans. And that’s not always the easiest lesson to learn.

When I was in high school, I had almost my entire life planned out. I had already planned the college I would go to, and later, where I would attend graduate school. I dreamed of joining the Jesuits and becoming a priest. Now, that was a pretty good plan if I do say so myself. What I didn’t account for is that I would meet Jesus and He would wreck my plans…in a good way. 

Now, I’m living a life that I would have never expected to live. In reality, my timing didn’t match what God wanted for me. That’s why He completely switched up my plans. He saw something in me that I didn’t see in myself. He had plans written for me that I did not have written down for myself. God’s timing is not our timing, and God’s plans will not always be our plans.

Whether we believe it or not, God has us right where He wants us. We are not where we are by accident. The things we go through in life are for our benefit, for our growth, and to make us into the people that He wants us to be. 

The plans you think are good for you, may be the same plans that could delay you of the REAL BLESSING God has in store for you!

Spend More Time with People Who Lift You Up

We spend far too much time with people who drag us down, add drama to our lives, and make us feel sad, helpless and hopeless. These are the people who shoot down your ideas, focus on the negative, and often play the victim.

Everyone has a bad day, or goes through a tough time, but there is a clear difference. If you want to spend less time with the vampires in your life, there is an easy solution.

Spend more time with people who lift you up.

Spending time with people who lift you up is:

Happiness
Whenever I spend time with people I enjoy being around, I can’t help but smile. It can be a weekend away with my wife, choir practice at Church, or a call with my mummy or sisters. Even just a few words sent back and forth through email with my close friends can change my whole day. These people make my life better, sweeter and happier.

Energizing
Talking about technology with other people, planning with colleagues or brainstorming new creative projects with clients fuels me. Those conversations and connections give me the energy I need to make changes and engage in meaningful work.

Soothing
Spending time with people who lift you is calm in the chaos. When you have a stressful day, connecting with someone who gets you can ease the pain. If you are faced with a big decision or can’t find your way, those amazing people in your life will guide you, calm you, and show you the way.

Simple
People who lift you up don’t always agree with you, or have the answer, but you know they always have your back, and that they always want the best for you. That makes it simple to spend time with them and to trust their intentions. It’s simple to connect and even reconnect when you disagree or lose touch. This is love.

Spend even more time lifting them back.

Lifting them back is all of those things and so much more. Relationships will bloom when you feed them, so choose. Feed the best relationships in your life with wholeheartedness.

You can feed the others with well wishes, prayers, forgiveness and permission to let go. Moving on from a relationship that doesn’t serve either of you in the best possible way makes time for the relationships that do.

When you start devoting your time to fostering your best relationships, the others usually fade away without confrontation or conversation.

Lift people who have no one too.

Choosing to spend less time with people who sabotage your happiness doesn’t mean you can’t take time to lift people who can’t lift themselves. Give your change, a smile, a sandwich, or a few volunteer hours to people who can’t surround themselves with people who lift them. You’ll be surprised at how they lift you too.

Cut out the other stuff that doesn’t lift.

It’s not just people who bring you down. What about ..

  • the nightly news?
  • an upsetting Facebook feed?
  • debt?
  • doubt?
  • guilt?
  • and the physical clutter?

When all of those depressing distractions go, you can really get clear about the way you spend your time, who you spend it with, and how to make those relationships bloom.

Please know how grateful I am that you lift me up, and for giving me the great pleasure of lifting you right back.

Know your Pace

The truth is, everyone grows at different rates and that’s absolutely okay! Everything happens in divine and perfect timing and we just have to trust in our growth and believe in ourselves. Remember, life has insightful lessons to teach – learn them your way, at your own pace.

Cherish your uniqueness! You have your own set of characteristics, skills, dreams and goals that makes you different from anyone else. Embrace them and don’t be embarrassed by who you are and how much time you take to learn something! Believe in your own self and remember that you are capable and worthy – just as much as anyone else, regardless of what you’ve achieved, regardless of what mistakes you’ve made!

Stop thinking you’re doing it all wrong. Your path doesn’t look like anybody else’s because it can’t, it shouldn’t, and it won’t.

Eleanor Brownn

When we’re tackling a new goal or challenge, people are often quick to give us advice like, “Just push yourself to do it!” and “Just dive in right away—don’t think!” Though they’re attempting to help, it can sometimes feel like peer pressure—like we’re supposed to radically reinvent ourselves right away, regardless of how uncomfortable it makes us feel. Yes, trying new things is an important practice in self-development, but one person’s quick change is another person’s months-long journey.

What I’ve learned: The key is to step out of your comfort zone because you want to, not because everyone else is doing it. The power is in trusting your gut and your intuition. Try new things for your own reasons and when you feel prepared to step out into the great unknown. I’ve learned not to give into peer pressure simply for the sake of appearing courageous. It’s not about waiting for your fear to disappear completely, but knowing when you’re ready to get outside your comfort zone. Real growth comes from making decisions for yourself.

Taking advantage of opportunities for growth is essential to life, but there are times when the people who are giving you the shot might not have your best interests in mind. Especially on the job, it’s hard to turn down opportunities for fear of stunting your career development, but sometimes that’s exactly what you need to do.

It’s brave to step out of your comfort zone, but it’s brave to own when you’re ready for that moment, too. Remember: Real growth comes from making decisions for yourself. And you have the power to decide when you’re ready for your next leap into the unknown.

I absolutely love these three lessons from flowers

Crocus
Azalea

A Crocus is not an Azalea.
We are all born with different features. Don’t expect the same from yourself as you would of someone else. Like the crocus and the azalea, one grows out of the ground at the end of winter in cold weather, while the azalea blooms from a shrub at the beginning of spring when it’s warm. Don’t expect either to bloom at the same time.

Day Lilies
Impatiens

Day lilies need full sun and Impatiens like shade.
Some like it hot, and some like it cool and calm. No one style of yoga is superior or inferior.

All flowers will bloom when it’s the right time and the right conditions.
No flower can force itself to grow, and neither can any person force themselves to do a pose their body can’t handle.

So why compare yourself to someone else? You will bloom when it’s time.

Here’s a lovely poem I came across on Instagram

Control Your Own Happiness

We are the most comfortable generation in the history of humanity and yet we are not it’s happiest one! In fact, all the comforts and advancement in our history was because of some level of unhappiness faced by our ancestors.

Yet, here we are, in the middle of all the comfort constantly living in fear and anxiety-more worried about what could have been or might be, rather than enjoying what is.

There is nobody in this world that has not been happy or doesn’t know how that feels. Somewhere along the way, we just decided to give in to the rigors of life and die a slow death rather than live an exuberant life.

Our happiness is our responsibility, just like a million other things that we are responsible for, which is probably why so many of us are not trying! We are responsible for our careers, for our health, for our sleep, for our relationships and on top of all that, now we have to figure out what makes us happy! It is just easier to blame someone else for this

Happiness is not a complex emotion! Here is how you can get back in touch with that emotion again.

Recognize that you are in control of your happiness.

The first step is to recognize that you are the one in control of your happiness. Your entire happiness lies within you. The more you learn to tap into it internally rather than depending on others to bring that out, the easier it will be for you to be happy.

Repeat with me:

I have at all times, within me, all the happiness that I need and I am solely responsible for my happiness.

Without this realization, it will be hard to keep up with your efforts. A lot of people commit suicide every year. Most of them do so because they forget that happiness is a choice and they can choose that over suicide. Easier said than done, I know.

Do what makes you happy

The simplest and easiest way to feel joyful again is to start doing things that make you happy. Humans have a tendency to make simple things complex. This is one of those such things!

Doing things that ignite joy puts us in a positive state of mind, enabling us to tackle the rest of our business. I have seen the results of this personally myself.

Stop worrying about what others think

As most of us grow up, we worry more about what others think and start behaving according to that rather than live according to what makes us happy. The quality of your life is determined by your thoughts and not by what others think but we tend to forget that don’t we?

When it comes to what others think, throw caution to the wind!

Stop complaining

When you complain, you are doing two things at once — one you are acting like a victim and two, you are wasting more time stuck in the past. I am not denying the fact that someone or something unfair happened to you but how you react to it is under your control.

Don’t let what happened in the past ruin the present moment. Play it back, make a note of the lessons that were there to learn and move on. Complaining about it only ensures that you live that moment again and again while filling you up with anger!

Instead of complaining, do something about it if you can — give feedback or suggestions. Anything you DO is better than sitting and complaining.

Complaining about the past is barely going to change anything but changing the present by doing something small in the future might radically change the future.

Happiness Is Not Rocket Science

Happiness or rather the lack of it makes the world go round. It is one of the most sought-after emotions in our life. A lot of the things we pursue are pursued with the ultimate goal of it leading us closer to happiness.

Happiness might be subjective but it sure isn’t rocket science. We make things complex when they don’t need to be. The options I have mentioned above are not complex. They are the simplest of things that you can do on a daily basis to increase your joy quotient.

Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you happy and do it. The world needs more people!

Obstacles are Opportunities

Seeing an obstacle as an opportunity is probably the last thing we think about, right? How much more can we take after all? We strive to succeed and something comes along that stops us from trying to realise our dreams. We all have our own story and definition for obstacles, yet we all know what they are and we all experience them! The greater the obstacle however, the greater the opportunity!

Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome

Booker T. Washington

Only after we overcome struggles does it become clear that success can come as a direct result. In fact, dealing with obstacles of varying degrees and urgency is a requirement to succeed in both life and business. Once you get through enough, you realize that even the worst-case scenario can have a positive solution. It may have taken me a few years to understand, but now, I see obstacles as opportunities, and without them, I wouldn’t be where I am today.

Embrace the challenges

Attempting to do anything hard comes with challenges, so embrace them. If we look at obstacles as opportunities to turn problems into progress, we increase our chances of success. Confronting obstacles forces you to assess the situation with new eyes and innovate creative solutions. You end up wiser with new skills and experiences. Challenges force us to access our full potential.

The dove struggles against the wind, not realizing it is the only thing that permits it to fly.

Johann W. Goethe

Change your perspective

Instead of avoiding them, view obstacles as opportunities to improve. Panic and fear in the face of struggle can feel normal. Fail once, and you can easily fall into the trap of believing you’ll always fail. When you can separate the thoughts that cause fear from those creating solutions, you have greater control over handling problems.


Be humble and transparent

When you nurture transparent and honest relationships, you end up with more people willing to help you when you need it. It can be hard to admit when times are tough, but if you try to make the situation not seem as bad as it is, people are much less likely to step up and help. A lot of uncomfortable conversations come with challenges, so dig into that feeling when you sense it and overcome that emotional stress by talking it out as soon as possible. The more you do it, the more confident you become. 

Share everything — not just once a problem occurs but always. This way, you have people who know your thought process and understand enough about you not to lose faith in you or the business when something goes wrong.


 The first challenge you overcome is the most important because it’s the one you’re least prepared to handle, but each time you take one on, you come out more capable of handling anything. Give yourself the mental fortitude it takes to struggle through it because, number one, it’s possible, and number two, after you do it once, it becomes easier. Once you’ve overcome enough, you learn that turning obstacles into greater opportunities always leads to success.

Story Behind The Origin of Valentine’s Day

Much about Valentine’s Day is well known. The handwritten cards, chocolate hearts, and red roses are all staples of the annual tradition, recognized easily at any convenience store. However, much about how the holiday came to be remains a mystery, details lost to time and transformed as romantics retold history. Not only does this holiday have competing origin stories, but there are at least two different saints who might be its namesake. Here’s what we actually know about Valentine’s Day.

The earliest possible origin story of Valentine’s Day is the pagan holiday Lupercalia. Occurring for centuries in the middle of February, the holiday celebrates fertility. Men would strip naked and sacrifice a goat and dog. Young boys would then take strips of hide from the sacrificed animals and use it to whip young women, to promote fertility.

Lupercalia was popular and one of the few pagan holidays still celebrated 150 years after Christianity was legalized in the Roman Empire.

When Pope Gelasius came to power in the late fifth century he put an end to Lupercalia. Soon after, the Catholic church declared February 14 to be a day of feasts to celebrate the martyred Saint Valentine.

According to Noel Lenski, a historian at the University of Colorado at Boulder, Lupercalia was “clearly a very popular thing, even in an environment where the Christians are trying to close it down.” In an interview with NPR Lenski theorizes that the feast was meant to replace Lupercalia. “So there’s reason to think that the Christians might instead have said, okay, we’ll just call this a Christian festival,” he said.

Apart from the name, these feasts share little resemblance to our modern, romantic notions of Valentine’s Day.

Who was St. Valentine?

By some estimations there are over 10,800 saints, of which there are more than 30 Valentines and even a few Valentinas. Two Valentines stand out as likely candidates for the namesake saint, but neither dealt with matters of the heart.

The two Valentines share many similarities, leading some researchers to wonder whether they were the same man. Both Valentines were martyrs, put to death by the Roman Emperor Claudius in the third century. Both men were also said to have died on February 14, although years apart.

The first Valentine was a priest who was arrested during the Roman persecutions of Christians. When brought before the emperor, Valentine refused to renounce his faith and as punishment was placed under house arrest. The head of the house holding Valentine challenged the priest to show the true power of God. Soon, Valentine restored sight to a young blind girl and the whole house converted. Once word of the miracle and conversion reached the Emperor, Valentine was executed.

The second priest, the Bishop Valentine of Terni, was also a miracle worker. Known for his ability to heal physical disabilities, a scholar sent for the bishop to heal his only son, who could not speak or straighten his body. After a night of prayer, the bishop healed the boy—and the family, along with visiting scholars, converted to Christianity. Shortly after the bishop was arrested for his miracles and, after refusing to convert to paganism, beheaded.

The first Valentine’s Day card dates to 1415 when the Duke of Orléans sent a card to his wife while he was he was a prisoner in the Tower of London. In the United States, Valentine’s Day cards didn’t gain popularity until the Revolutionary War, when people took up the habit of writing handwritten notes to their sweethearts. It was only in the early 1900s that cards were mass produced for the holiday.

Although gaining global popularity, Valentine’s Day is still not widely celebrated in countries like Indonesia, Saudi Arabia, and Malaysia. In most of those countries the holiday contradicts aspects of their religion. However, some countries resist Valentine’s Day for political reasons.

Whether you celebrate Valentine’s Day or not (by choice, fate, or otherwise), our ability to love has connected humans for centuries—from the Romans to today. Sure we may no longer whip each other with sacrificial hides, but we all enjoy treating and being treated by those we love.

Find Friends who Believe in You When…

It’s important to make friendships that have depth and meaning.

Friendships that contain more than going out on a Friday night to drink yourself stupid, friendships that have more complexity than going out to lunch and gossiping about other people’s lives, friendships that are more than shallow conversations you could have with just about anyone.

You need more than that.

You need friends that you can go to breakfast with when you’ve had a really rough night and feel like the world is crumbling beneath your feet. You need friends you can cry with when it’s 2 AM and you’re crying your eyes out because the you got dumped.

You need friends that bring out the best in you, who truly want the best for you and not for the sole reason they hope to get something out of your success.

You need friends who will be there for you when you’re on the bottom of the floor shaking your fists because nothing is going the way you planned and the same friends to be there when you’ve finally overcome every obstacle in your way. You need friends who are not only going to send you words of encouragement to overcome the barriers, but actually help you push them out of the way if you’re struggling on your own. You need friends who believe in you when you don’t even believe in yourself.

You need friends who will push you out of your comfort zone, encourage you to do more because they know what you’re capable of – even if you hate them for it at the time.

You need friends who will make you angry from time to time because they won’t stand by your side and watch you fail or watch you quit, they’ll keep pushing you because they know you can do better. You need friends who won’t give up on you when you give up on yourself.

You need friends who inspire you to try new things, to learn new skills and to test yourself. You need friends who are willing to push you when you need a little push. You need friends who will say enough is enough when you’re sulking over your ex on the couch. You need friends who will rip the phone from your hand and drag you out the door to enjoy life.

You need friends who become your family, through everything you’ve been through. Friends you love like sisters, friends you miss when you’re apart for too long, friends you’d hop on a plane and fly across the country just to spend a day with.

You need friends who bring out the best in you, even when you can’t stand them every now and then because you’ll always love them more than you can ever hate them.

Cherish and treasure these friendships; they’re the ones that are going to be by your side forever. 


Some friends will touch your life along the way 
but only a true friend will touch your heart 
no matter if they’re by your side or far apart 

True friendship can’t be measured by distance or time 
but rather by the laughs, tears and secrets you share 
a friendship that no other friend can compare 

John Gabriel

Living in the Present

Most of us have a tendency to live in the past or the future. How often do you find yourself thinking about what happened yesterday, or what might happen tomorrow? How does this affect your life and well-being?

The easiest way to explain living in the present is to start by explaining what it means to not be present, since this is the state we have become habitually used to.

When you aren’t being present you become a victim of time. Your mind is pulled into the past or the future, or both.

Your thoughts are of the past: what has been, what could have been, what you thought happened vs. what actually did happen. Or, your thoughts are of the future: what will be, what could be, what might be, if…

Of course, it’s natural to spend moments of thought in the past or in daydreams of the future. Identifying impending dangers through associations with things that have happened in the past is important for self-preservation.

But when our lives become dictated by thoughts and emotions attached to past events and potential future outcomes, standing peacefully rooted in the present becomes increasingly rare.

The idea of “living in the moment” has inspired a lot of motivational posters and T-shirts, but it’s really an important concept. You’ve probably heard several variations: Live like there’s no tomorrow. Live as if you’ll die today. Living in the moment takes practice, but when you learn how to live this way, you will lead a fuller life and appreciate the beauty in every activity every second of the day. Learn how to live in the moment with these six ideas.

1. FOCUS ON THE NOW

In order to live in the moment, you need to focus on the now. Focus on what you’re doing. Shut off the TV, turn off the computer, slow down, and savor the present.

2. PAY ATTENTION TO THE SMALL THINGS

Notice the world around you: the small things. Be thankful for them. Living for the moment and taking notice of the small things will help you cultivate more positive experiences.

3. SMILE

If you want to know how to live in the moment, you just have to take a look in the mirror and smile. Smile — it can influence how you feel.

4. PERFORM RANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS

Random acts of kindness, those selfless acts that help others, help you live for the moment of making others smile, and making you smile as well. Random acts of kindness are just that — random. They are spontaneous, in the moment, and a great addition to your daily life.

5. GIVE THANKS

Be thankful. Sounds easy, doesn’t it? But it isn’t always. It doesn’t have to be Thanksgiving for you to feel grateful and express that gratitude.

6. DON’T WORRY

It’s much harder than it sounds, but try to remember that worrying today won’t change what happens tomorrow. Every second you spend in worry about the future is a second of the present wasted. Because worrying takes you out of this moment and transports you into the realm of future possibilities, it’s impossible to live in the moment and worry at the same time.

Instead, if circumstances are troubling, focus on ways you can solve an existing problem now or otherwise improve the current moment. Spending time focused on what may happen down the line robs you of fully experiencing what is happening now. Life in the moment moves quickly — don’t miss it.